My daughter is the youngest in her preschool class. She has been in the class since January. I have noticed that she has been having more accidents lately at home & at preschool. I thought that this change of behavior is due to DS starting to crawl and require alot more of our attention. It turns out, her best friend in the class is a little boy who is very hyper, not really potty trained, disruptive, and very immature for his age. I know that he has pushed DD down a couple times. When I picked her up on Friday her teacher said that she was concerned about DD's behavior and that she has been regressing & letting this boy take toys (etc.) from her and kind of push her around. The teacher said that she tells DD to "use her voice", put up her hands and tell the boy to "STOP" &/or "NO" but DD is not doing it. The teacher told me to work on it at home - to do some role playing. I did try it some this weekend (role-playing, making up stories where a boy comes to take a girl's toy and the girl says "NO"). DD says that she's not old enough to say those words.
THe teacher also told us to tell her that we didn't want her to play with this little boy at school. I am conflicted because I think that's mean but I want DD to stand up for herself.
I need some advice. I want my daughter to stand up for herself. She is being ostracized (like the little boy) because she's hanging out with him. The other girls don't seem to include her very much. If you're an early education teacher or have experience with this situation, please let me know some things that worked for you.
FWIW - I think this boy will be leaving at the end of the school year. I also asked (in the nicest way that I could) - "How many times will he push someone down before he's asked to leave?" I don't think the teacher understood my question because she didn't answer it.