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In our last hours with Dad.

Hospice says 24-48 hours.  His kidneys have shut down and the nurse couldn't get his blood pressure.  I'm sad, but it's gut wrenching to see my Mom lose her best friend and lover.  Absolutely. Terrible.

My DH's birthday is Sunday.  I'm so afraid he'll make it until his birthday and make that a bittersweet day, but then I feel guilty for even thinking like that.  

This. Is. Awful.  Feck you cancer. 

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  • i'm so sorry you are going through this. sending prayers that things are as peaceful as possible for everyone.
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  • I'm really sorry Em.
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  • I'm so sorry.  What a horribly painful time for you and your family.  You will be in my thoughts.

    I feel like people can control when they die to some degree. 

    My grandmother passed away last Thanksgiving.  The day before she died was my cousins 15th birthday and my aunt asked her not to die on that day, that would have been devestating to him.  She waited until the next day to die which did made Thanksgiving a sad day but on the other hand, the whole family was together.

    My friends dad died when she was in high school and she spent every minute by his side while he was sick.  Her family forced her to go out to eat with friends on night and he died while she was out.  She believes he did it on purpose because he didnt want her to be there for that. 

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  • Absolutly terrible.  T&P.

  • I am so, so sorry. Sending you a huge hug, and praying for strength and peace for you all at this difficult time.
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    I'm so incredibly sorry you are going through this. Sending thoughts and prayers your way!

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  • Lots of hugs.

     

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  • Oh Em, I am so so sorry.
  • Oh Em, I'm so sorry sweetie :( I wish there was anything to make it easier.  I'm thinking of you guys...
  • All I've got are (((HUGS))) and lot's of prayers for your family to get through this time.
    "Normal day, let me be aware of the treasured day you are. Let me learn from you, love you, bless you before you depart...let me hold you while I may."

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  • I'm so sorry. Lots of hugs to you, and I wish you all a lot of peace. 
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  • I am so sorry for your family. 
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  • My heart is breaking for you and your family. I'm so sorry and sending a huge hug.  :(

    Childhood cancer (DH) + chemo + radiation = 0 sperm.
    LO #1 - 1 unmedicated/self-monitored IUI w/ donor sperm.
    LO #2 - 1 m/c, 2 BFNs, 4th IUI worked (unmedicated/self-monitored with new donor sperm).
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  • Many thoughts, prayers, and hugs to you and your family. I am so sorry you're all going through this :(
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  • I'm so very sorry. Big hugs to you...
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  • I'm so sorry that you have to go through this, Em.  Just try to cherish these last moments with him.  Praying for your whole family. 
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  • I'm so sorry....I'll be keeping you all in my thoughts.
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  • I am so sorry.   Hugs, prayers, and wishes for peace for your family.
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  • I am so so sorry.

    (((Hugs)))

     

  • I am so sorry your family is going thought this.  I pray peace be with you and your family.
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  • I am so sorry, my friend.  Holding your hand these next days, and not letting go, OK?
    Pregnant with #1 with PCOS and LPD, success with mostly naturopathic treatments
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  • i am sorry. thoughts and prayers with you and your family.
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  • Prayers for peace for you and your family.  I'm so sorry you're dealing with this this incredibly hard situation. 
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  • I'm sorry. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • I am so sorry you are dealing with this! If you need to talk to someone who has been, I am here!
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  • I'm so sorry. I'm sue this is so hard. Your family will be in my thoughts. 
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  • Im totally heartbroken for all of you. 

     I wish there were words to comfort you but I fear they all fall short.  

    Our IF journey: 1 m/c, 1 IVF with only 3 eggs retrieved yielding Dylan and a lost twin, 1 shocker unmedicated BFP resulting in Jace, 3 more unmedicated pregnancies ending in more losses.
    Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
  • There are no words.  I am just so sorry.  Many prayers.
    After 2 years and 6 IUIs, we did it with IVF w/ ICSI!
    BFP with no treatment!
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  • I'll keep your family in my thoughts!
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  • Oh, I'm so sorry.  Thinking of you and your family.  I hope that your dad's last days are peaceful and that he has no pain.  Big hugs. 
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  • This brings tears to my eyes. I'm terribly sorry you and your family have to go through this. Praying for peace.
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  • I'm so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I pray for peace and comfort for your dad. Take care. (((hugs)))
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  • My thoughts are with each and every one of you guys.

    I know these girls love you, Em, but they've only had a peek at how amazing and wonderful you and your mom, and siblings, and whole family are.  I can only imagine the pride your dad has for you all. You are GREAT apples that fell from an amazing tree.   Call/email me anytime, my friend.

    We're all here for you.

     

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  • I am so sorry.  Sending lots of hugs.
    TTC #1 since 4/09
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    11/5/11: We said goodbye to our sweet baby girl as she was born with multiple complications and a severe heart defect, Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome.
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  • I am so very sorry.  My thoughts and prayers are with your entire family.  Hugs.
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  • I am so, so sorry...    (((HUGS)))
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  • I am so very sorry and wish you all peace in this absolutely terrible time.....
    Lisa
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  • I'm so very sorry
    Our miracle IVF baby - D 6/09 & J - Surprise! born 9/10!!!
  • I am so, so sorry.
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    Nora B...June 15, 2010...8lbs, 8oz...Med-free birth!
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  • Emily, I am so, so very sorry.  I just saw your post on FB that he is gone, and my heart is seriously hurting for you right now.  It brings back that last day that my dad was alive - it was the same thing and I hate that anyone has to go through it.  You're right - feck you cancer.  You and your family will continue to be in my thoughts & prayers.  I wish I was closer so I could give you a great big hug, but know that I am sending tons of hugs your way. 
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