So I have posted before about planning and dealing with the anxiety of DS having a correctional surgery on his boy part. DH and I have been going back and forth, and asking others "opinions" for the past 2 months. The surgery is scheduled for next Wednesday and in the past few weeks I have come to terms and gotten over most of the anxiety of the whole thing. My husband and I have talked so much about LO's penis that we're about sick of it!
The financial lady called yesterday to make sure all of our insurance information is correct and told me an estimate of the cost, which is about $2300 just for the procedure. This does not include any doctor fees or the anesthesiologist. This has but a big halt in the surgery plans! We were expecting no more than at most $2000 for our portion. We just used our tax returns to pay off the hospital and doctor bills of his birth, now to turn around and have to charge another $3000+ is it really worth it!?!?!?
The procedure in this case is PURELY cosmetic. Functionally LO is fine, his little pee pee is just a little off, and he will have to aim a little different, but other than that he's just normal.
I have told my husband repeatedly I trust his decision, considering he's a man and knows how men feel towards their boy parts! He's now worried that I will hate him or be upset with him later because we don't do it. Neither of us feel confident one way or the other honestly, we see the reasons to do it and see reasons why not to do it.
I'm not looking for an answer here, just expressing myself in a neutral zone. I do think not doing it, we'll wonder "what if we had done it" and if there's any frustration in potty training we'll blame not correcting it. But I really feel okay either way. We are a one income family and I'm a part time student at a community college so money is EXTREMELY tight, so not putting the extra burden on DH I think is worth every penny.