I'd like some advice on how to tell my firstborn son that I am having another baby. My son Trent was born Feb 2006 and lived with me until Aug 2008. I was a young, single parent, and my mom's parents watched Trent a lot when I had to work. he also attended a daycare while I was in school. When my grandparents decided to leave south Louisiana (after hurricane gustav 2008) we decided it would be best for Trent to go live with my mom, who is a RN and able to provide him with a much more stable environment. My mom lives across the country and I have been lucky if I can afford to go home 3 times a year since then to see Trent. He and I have a relationship over the phone/Skype and he knows that I am his mommy and I did not want to give him away but it was the best thing at the time. Trent will be 6 this February. In the past two years, I fell in love with an old friend/coworker and we have been together since March 2010, married since April 2011. Trent has never met my husband but they have talked over the phone and he thinks its okay for me to be married. Hubby and I are expecting July 2012; we have told our families but have not told Trent yet. How do I tell my son I am having another baby? I am so worried about hurting his feelings. I don't want him to think I am trying to replace him with another baby. I feel I would be ready to regain custody of him before I have our baby but my mom "doesn't know how she feels". So I have to explain why I am having another baby but can't have him back yet.
Doesn't make sense to me, either, and I am thinking about pursuing matters of custody legally to get him back before I have baby. But most importantly I just want Trent to know I love him as much as I ever have, and no baby could ever replace him. how do I approach this issue with a 5-6 yr old?