I really don't understand why showers have to be all about gifts. I have seen many attacks on women (including myself) for having a shower on their own. I personally don't expect gifts at my shower and just want to spend time with my friends and family celebrating this exciting time. I know first hand how difficult shower-planning is and when I made this comment, I was attacked by several women on this board. I don't understand why it has to be so materialistic. If I am having a baby, I am taking on the expense of providing for and caring for that baby. I really hope there are others who understand my position.