I need to vent big time!
My twin girls were born at 28 weeks gestation.They were on O2 for a month. We did qualify for snyagis and they started it on Thursday (11/10). The holidays are typically spent with my DH's family. With the girls being preemies and so young, I want to have a low key holiday season.
Well apparently me wanting to have a low key holiday season has REALLY upset his family including DH. I've pretty much pissed everyone off. My DH hasn't made this any easier, because he's telling everyone what they want to hear (thus pissing me off!). He has 2 neices that are 8 and 6 and have been sick every.freaking.year during Thanksgiving or Christmas. And every.freaking.year I get whatever they have (including when I was pregnant and we asked if they were sick and the response was no, however they were...4 days after being home I was sick).
I have explained until I'm blue in the face about RSV and now bad it can be for preemies...multiple times.
We agreed (or at least I thought we agreed) to have Thanksgiving at his parents home with us staying in a hotel so everyone could be together. The following week, change of plans. Then it was we were going to his parents, and his sister & her family) would come to us with them staying elsewhere. Well surprise, change of plans again. Everyone is pushing to stay at our home. The momma bear in me gets angry...
I sent a rather nice email to his mom and sister letting them know I wanted to minimize the girls risk of getting sick and once again explained RSV. Said my intent was not to keep anyone away from the girls, but I wanted to keep them safe.
Fast forward to tonight, my DH and I have a disagreement about this entire ordeal. They are saying I sent a hurtful email and they will never get to see the girls; that I hate them; that I made his mom and sister cry, that I'm never going to allow them to go see their grandparents, that we will never spend a holiday season together again, etc. etc. etc. Seriously...
I just don't understand why they cant understand I'm trying to keep my girls healthy! My family (both parents are deceased) is rather large. My sister & BIL have 5 boys and my brother and SIL have 5 boys. They are not freaking out by any means. In fact they understand!
Please tell me I'm not crazy, or tell me I am.