I am getting more and more uneasy with the fact that DH's family are just planning to "show up" They haven't once asked me if i'm comfortable with it or if I even have room for them to stay at my house. I feel like I should have some say, but because DH's family already have 3 grandkids, I feel like they think they know whats best.
I do not have to worry about my family. My father lives in Ontario(we live about an hour from the BC border) and my mother will be flying up from Australia, and has been more then willing to listen to my requests. I feel communication should be important, and I don't know how I feel about family and friends just sitting around "waiting". I mean I guess if that's what they want to do, but I think I want to push this baby out on "My own time" and not have people waiting.
I don't want that pressure, also I don't want to "entertain" people while in Labour.Maybe that's not the right word, but being vulnerable and cranky isn't something I want to pass on. Not even to my own mother! I would feel so much more at ease and at peace if it were just DH and I, with the nurses. And once baby is born and we've established BF, then family and friends could slowly take turns stopping by.
My concern is, People waiting on me. I don't feel comfortable with that at all. And i'm afraid of coming off mean to DH's family. Communication with them is like talking to a brick wall. I wish my DH would not beat around the bush and just tell them! HELP!