We are expecting our third child. It's been five years since we had our last child. We decided that we would rather have a large gathering after the baby is born so everyone gets to meet him then to have a baby shower. (Most of our family has to travel a distance to visit us.) However, everyone knows this baby is a very pleasant surprise, and we gave all of our baby things to good will about a month before we found out that we were expecting. So my question is now that people are asking what to buy (even though we tell everyone that it isn't necessary, our family is insisting to buy gifts before the birth) how do we tactfully let everyone know that we registered without making others feel they have to buy a gift?