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Regifting at a friends shower question
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I need some advice. I am going to a friends baby shower this weekend and I am not sure if I should buy her another gift or just give her the stuff I have already in a nicer bag (right now it is all in an old pampers box. I have several diapers (not in packs a few brands that DD couldn't wear), 4 packs of wipes (they are the refill packs so not in a container SN these are the brand she registered for), breast milk storage bags (one opened, one never opened) and an extra sleep sack that we are not using to give to her. I also bought a new swaddle blanket/sleep sack/hat set from Babies R Us that she did register for. I think this is plenty of items but I feel like since they don't have tags that maybe I should get something else. What would you do?
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Re: Regifting at a friends shower question
Other than the set you bought from BRU, I would not give those items as a shower gift. They are hand-me-downs, left overs that you don't need any longer. They aren't a gift you give a new mom to welcome her to motherhood.
So yes, i'd buy her another gift.
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I agree. I would ask her if she wants these extra items but I wouldn't include them as part of her gift.
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I would actually be really happy to get that stuff.. My sister was really happy to get diapers and she got a lot of really useful gift baskets. My advice is..
Make sure everything you give her is unopened (sounds like it you're good to go). And put it in a cute basket with a bow. I might even add some stuff (inexpensive) like buying some baby oil and baby lotion at walmart to put in there just to dress it up. My sister got a few baskets like that at her baby shower and was thrilled with them.
Just make sure it's not opened because that really does look bad. Another idea is to make her a "diaper cake" from the opened (unused) items.
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I agree with this. It's not really a gift when it's just your old left overs.
I would absolutely gift them to her. A gift is a gift, no matter if it still has tags or not. As long as you aren't giving the MTB your old used breast pump, I don't see the big deal?
Also, I wouldn't even classify them as hand-me-downs because they have not been used. To the OP, I would be very grateful to get those things especially if I registered for them and/or needed them. Just because it didn't come from BRU with tags and a gift receipt doesn't mean it's not a gift.
I think using leftover supplies to make a gift basket is very considerate and very smart. You are not letting things go to waste and are giving them to a mother who needs them. I really do think it's a great idea and I would be thrilled with it personally.
The wipes and one box of storage bags are sealed, so those would be okay to regift, but it's ALL about how you present it. I say, go out and add a few more simple low cost items, such as a paci, bottle, bib, diaper cream, onsies, washcloths, ect, and present it in a nice gift basket, one that you can easily find for under $15. If doing this is out of your budget, then you can just gift her the swaddle set and be done or add a small gift card ($10-15) to it. Anything that isn't sealed or new can be pass along to her in private anytime after the shower.
Why is everyone so down on giving these items? A GIFT is whatever you want to give to the MTB. On all the other posts about receiving a gift everyone gets all pissy about dictating the gift you are given. I say give them to her along with the BRU gift you bought.
If you are embarassed for some reason, give them to her seperately or after the gift opening is complete but otherwise I don't see any problems with this. A gift is whatever you decide you want to give- end of story.
All of this. Since it seems like some of the items are opened I would perceive this as you being cheap if I received those items (besides the new sleeper set) as a gift for my shower. Sorry, just my opinion. But, if you called me and said "hey I have some extra things that my LO didn't use. Would you like them?" I would be appreciative and gladly accept. I just don't think it should be a shower gift. KWIM?
I think if I opened a gift of all obviously used or opened items I would think the person was being cheap. Ask her if she wants them at a different time...don't use them as her only gift.
That sounds like a good plan. And you could wrap up the thing you already bought off her registry and give her that during the shower so she has something from you to open. Whatever you do, you're doing something nice and hooking her up w/ a ton of stuff so I am sure she'll be appreciative!
You have to be careful with re-gifting. I know there are things that were regifted and seriously I was a bit offended. They looked "used". If the person had just said...hey, I've got these things I have never used...do you want them? I wouldn't have minded...but she gave them as gifts. I even heard a couple of comments from a couple of guests regarding "used gifts" and I'm thinking they were talking about those things.
If you have things that have never been opened go ahead and throw them all together. If it is just the breastmilk bags that have not been opened...maybe add a couple more boxes to the mix so it doesn't look like it is just your leftovers. Or add something else that goes along with breastfeed (Lanisol, burp cloths, etc).
I'm sure she would love to have the items but I wouldn't give them as "gifts". KWIM?
Good idea. It might look bad at the shower itself, but I think those things would be a nice gift in general!