So we're thinking of names and ILs politely "remind" me that if we have a son his middle name must be Robert. This follows a family tradition of giving your son his grandfather's first name as a middle name.
Robert is a fine normal name, but what is I don't want to give my son that middle name? I was thinking Carter John for our son. John is my Dad's name, he never had a son. ILs already are giving my kid their last name, I don't think its fair to give my son a middle and last name honoring the ILs and totally ignore my family in this. And I need to add, we're with my family more, they're more supportive, and honestly, will be in our child's life more.
DH sees both sides, but doesn't want to stir the pot with his family...what would you do?