TTC After a Loss

I really dont want to overpost but....

I have another question.

When you all first started trying to conceive after a loss, did your nerves make you late.
This is our first month trying and im 4 days late and Im not sure if it's because im just anxious to know, and Im not one to buy a test to get disappointed. && I hate the waiting game!

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Re: I really dont want to overpost but....

  • Stress cannot lengthen your LP. 
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  • What are you judging you are late from? My cycles after miscarriage were different so I would be patient..a lot of those automated tickers do not work for predicting cycles.

    Even after months and months my cycles were never the same twice, just a thought. Just be patient :) If you test, test for piece of mind I guess and take it from there I guess.  

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  • How do you know you are late? Do you know when you O'd?
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  • Are you charting? How do you know when you O'd?
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  • I've always heard that it could. I had gone to the doctor about a week ago, just knowing i had a UTI and they went ahead and tested me for safety reasons and it was a negative. i feel like the more i wait to start, the less likely it will come. My boobs have been very sore since yesterday, im starting to get real impatient. My Fiance doesnt want to go buy a test & be disappointed, he wants to wait. Oh what to do.

     

    I use a calculater on my phone that predicts when I am supposed to start, and i've been right on the dot since i miscarried. Every month i start around the same time, maybe a day off but never more.

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    I use a calculater on my phone that predicts when I am supposed to start, and i've been right on the dot since i miscarried. Every month i start around the same time, maybe a day off but never more.

    These calculators are 99% of the time wrong. I used to O every month at day 13-14. Now It's day 17-20. Sometimes it's day 24. It's never always exactly the same. Some months can be off for various reasons.

    I'm not saying you aren't pregnant but there's no way to know if you're late unless you know when you O'd and charting is a great way to do that.

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    I've always heard that it could. I had gone to the doctor about a week ago, just knowing i had a UTI and they went ahead and tested me for safety reasons and it was a negative. i feel like the more i wait to start, the less likely it will come. My boobs have been very sore since yesterday, im starting to get real impatient. My Fiance doesnt want to go buy a test & be disappointed, he wants to wait. Oh what to do.

     

    I use a calculater on my phone that predicts when I am supposed to start, and i've been right on the dot since i miscarried. Every month i start around the same time, maybe a day off but never more.

    Phishing is rude.  Test or don't.  ::shrug::

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    I've always heard that it could. I had gone to the doctor about a week ago, just knowing i had a UTI and they went ahead and tested me for safety reasons and it was a negative. i feel like the more i wait to start, the less likely it will come. My boobs have been very sore since yesterday, im starting to get real impatient. My Fiance doesnt want to go buy a test & be disappointed, he wants to wait. Oh what to do.

     

    I use a calculater on my phone that predicts when I am supposed to start, and i've been right on the dot since i miscarried. Every month i start around the same time, maybe a day off but never more.

    Phishing is rude.  Test or don't.  ::shrug::

    Started TTC in February 2010
    BFP #1
      3.23.11 :: Natural M/C on 5.21.11 @ 12wk4d
    BFP #2  2.17.12 :: EDD 10.28.12 :: Ava was born 11.2.12

    BFP #3  1.31.14 :: Natural M/C on 3.10.14 @ 9wk2d

    BFP #4  4.29.14 :: Natural M/C on 5.5.14 @ ?

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  • I believe you have already been given this link in your other post... but please be sure to read every page of this blog: http://ttcalblog.blogspot.com/

    It has great information for you, and will help you a lot. I promise.

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      3.23.11 :: Natural M/C on 5.21.11 @ 12wk4d
    BFP #2  2.17.12 :: EDD 10.28.12 :: Ava was born 11.2.12

    BFP #3  1.31.14 :: Natural M/C on 3.10.14 @ 9wk2d

    BFP #4  4.29.14 :: Natural M/C on 5.5.14 @ ?

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  • None of us want to buy test and be disappointed. Either you're pregnant, or your cycle is off some... that's about all we can tell you.

    Buying pregnancy tests is all a part of TTCAL. 

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    Phishing is rude.  Test or don't.  ::shrug::

    This.  We can't tell you if you're KTFU, so buy a test or don't complain.  It's just the way it is.

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    I've always heard that it could. I had gone to the doctor about a week ago, just knowing i had a UTI and they went ahead and tested me for safety reasons and it was a negative. i feel like the more i wait to start, the less likely it will come. My boobs have been very sore since yesterday, im starting to get real impatient. My Fiance doesnt want to go buy a test & be disappointed, he wants to wait. Oh what to do.

     

    I use a calculater on my phone that predicts when I am supposed to start, and i've been right on the dot since i miscarried. Every month i start around the same time, maybe a day off but never more.

    Phishing is rude.  Test or don't.  ::shrug::

     

     

     

    I must ask;; what is phishing when referring to something like this.

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  • http://ttcalblog.blogspot.com/p/for-newbies_22.html

    Phishing is basically round-a-boutly asking if we think you are pregnant.  

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    TTC Since 2008. 4 losses: 12w5d, 6w6d, 6w3d, 5w3d

    Dx: Bipolar II with Psychosis, PCOS, and Adult ADD. Feel free to PM me about it.


    "A wizard is never late, Frodo Baggins. Nor is he early. He arrives precisely when he means to" Gandalf the Grey, Lord of the Rings

    Vincent Julian born on March 27th, 2013 DX with Down Syndrome


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  • image kjskala:

    I've always heard that it could. I had gone to the doctor about a week ago, just knowing i had a UTI and they went ahead and tested me for safety reasons and it was a negative. i feel like the more i wait to start, the less likely it will come. My boobs have been very sore since yesterday, im starting to get real impatient. My Fiance doesnt want to go buy a test & be disappointed, he wants to wait. Oh what to do.

     

    I use a calculater on my phone that predicts when I am supposed to start, and i've been right on the dot since i miscarried. Every month i start around the same time, maybe a day off but never more.

    Stress causing 'lateness' is a common misconception. As is the predictability of your O date based on cycle length.

    Go to Fertilityfriend.com (FF) and take their free courses to begin to educate yourself about the working of your body. Also, you can never go wrong with reading a copy of Taking Charge Of Your Fertility (TCOYF).

    But, the short and dirty of it is... unless your phone app has you entering your basal body temperature (BBT) into the app every morning, you are just using an averager based on the supposition that all women ovulate (O) on cycle day (CD) 14. In truth, that is just a statistical average, meaning very few women O on CD14, but most women O between CD12 and CD16. Some do not. 

    The cycle is divided into two phases by ovulation, and controlled by hormone levels. Women have variation of the length of their follicular phase (FP), both within a population AND within an individuals lifetime of cycles. Women have variation in the length of their luteal phase (LP) only as a population. Individuals do not have significant variation in their LP length, plus or minus one day without a luteal phase defect (LPD).

    Illness and extreme stress can lengthen the FP, but it is uncommon at best. However, it is the source of the old wives tale that stress delays your period. In truth, it delays only your FP and not your LP.

    The tried and accepted method for detecting impending O at home, is the use of ovulation prediction kits (OPK). A positive OPK test indicates that your body will attempt to O in the next 24-48 hours. 

    The tried and accepted method for verifying O at home, is the use of BBT trends. O can be verified after 3 days of sustained elevation of BBT, seen as a biphasic pattern when tracked throughout the cycle.

    I hope this clarifies things. I can't recommend the use of FF to track and confirm O strongly enough.

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    http://ttcalblog.blogspot.com/p/for-newbies_22.html

    Phishing is basically round-a-boutly asking if we think you are pregnant.  

    LOL...3rd time (linking) is the charm, huh?

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    image emeraudecephiro:

    http://ttcalblog.blogspot.com/p/for-newbies_22.html

    Phishing is basically round-a-boutly asking if we think you are pregnant.  

    LOL...3rd time (linking) is the charm, huh?

    If at first you don't succeed...Try, try again I say ;) 

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    Dx: Bipolar II with Psychosis, PCOS, and Adult ADD. Feel free to PM me about it.


    "A wizard is never late, Frodo Baggins. Nor is he early. He arrives precisely when he means to" Gandalf the Grey, Lord of the Rings

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    image emeraudecephiro:

    http://ttcalblog.blogspot.com/p/for-newbies_22.html

    Phishing is basically round-a-boutly asking if we think you are pregnant.  

    LOL...3rd time (linking) is the charm, huh?

     

    i've referred back to that thing a million times, the more I read it the mroe I learn. Im still trying out this whole posting thing. And im not really asking anyone if i am pregnant or not, that's not what im here for. Im here to learn off of other's experiences. I can go and read anything and try to figure out if it relates to me or not, but i sometimes have personal questions.

    Sorry if i have offended any of you all. Im really sorry.

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    image BabyTrippin:
    image emeraudecephiro:

    http://ttcalblog.blogspot.com/p/for-newbies_22.html

    Phishing is basically round-a-boutly asking if we think you are pregnant.  

    LOL...3rd time (linking) is the charm, huh?

     

    i've referred back to that thing a million times, the more I read it the mroe I learn. Im still trying out this whole posting thing. And im not really asking anyone if i am pregnant or not, that's not what im here for. Im here to learn off of other's experiences. I can go and read anything and try to figure out if it relates to me or not, but i sometimes have personal questions.

    Sorry if i have offended any of you all. Im really sorry.

    I don't think you offended anyone. It's just that none of us can tell you whether or not you are pregnant. Testing or waiting for AF is the only way to know, and we can't make that decision for you. And your FI needs to realize that sometimes it can take a healthy couple a YEAR to conceive even with perfect timing. Even if you got pregnant the first try last time, you both need to realize that you more than likely will face disappointment whether you test or get AF. It sucks, but you're more than likely going to see a few negative tests or a few AFs before you conceive again. I would test if I thought there was a possibility that I was pregnant, but that's me. I also wouldn't care what SO thought about me testing because it's my body and my mental state and I'm a big girl and can pee on whatever I'd like. That's also just my opinion.

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