Hi Ladies - you all posted a lot of great comments to my previous post about seeking ideas for delayed consequences for my 3 yo DD who is having trouble listening at school. I just wanted to add that I was really heartened by the comments from those of you who felt that her behavior was not atypical for her age. I have really been obsessing about this whole thing recently - I even had a dream the other night that she got kicked out of school because she wouldn't listen! I have been feeling like this is just a matter of her needing to adjust to the new setting and expectations and learn how to "get with the program", so to speak. This school follows their curriculum a year ahead, meaning that DD's class is actually following a 4 yo curriculum. It is really structured and they do a lot more of what I would call actual schoolwork - worksheets, literature, etc. Unfortunately, my DH has had me questioning my own instincts a lot, because he has the impression that our DD is the only one who is having trouble following instructions and listening. He keeps calling her an "outlier" which really bugs me. I have been really torn between wanting to support her teacher and help my DD to fit into the school environment and feeling like possibly her teacher's expectations are a little high. Also, there is only one teacher to 12 kids, so I know she can't spend a lot time dealing with my DD.
Anyway, it really helped me to "hear" all the feedback that aligns with my own instincts that this is not some indicator that my DD is a problem child! I feel more relaxed about the whole situation and I am going to give this another month and see if she starts to show signs of progress with listening and understanding what's expected of her. If she continues to have trouble all the time, I think we will look into a different program that is maybe a better fit for her - like something a little less structured and with more than one teacher so she can get a bit more individual attention. Of course, that's assuming we can find something like that! So - thanks again for the supportive feedback!