Let me start off by stating that I do not believe I'm going to have a baby shower at all. I don't have any close friends close by that would think of doing such a thing. It's been 20 years since giving birth to my last child (I'll be 42 when this one comes along). The friends I do have are segmented. You know, church friends, neighbor friends, activity friends...but no big unified tie or anything.
And then there are my husband's friends (co-workers or otherwise through his business) that I only know as acquaintances, but whom he's known and been pals with for several years. That's where I'm coming into conflict. He's just closer to people than I am (warmer more outgoing personality). Two of them are insisting (strongly and frequently) that they want to give a gift for the baby. They've gone as far to say to DH that our turning them down would insult their feelings. Very very sweet. The thing is, we have no clue what to ask for...obviously we don't have baby "left overs" from my previous kids. There are so many "new fangled" things on the market... and so much is expensive now-a-days. I feel like a heel asking them for something expensive, I don't have any "fantasy" budget item, but I also think saying "you know, whatever you want..maybe onsies and diapers" or something generic isn't the thing to do either.
We've only made a single purchase thus far, the crib, and planned not to purchase anything ourselves until late in the game (Dec). My thoughts were just to go as minimalist as possible.
I should also throw in there that as a general rule both DH and I are the kinds of people who would not expect or anticipate gifts on any occasion and were both raised that one does not ask for things...so there's an internal mental block that we are both fighting against as well. It's like we were trained not to accept or allow kindness like that without feeling guilt or pushy.
What should we do?