So DH and two of his three sisters have birthdays within about 2 weeks of eachother. The family would usually use it as an excuse to get together around the end of October early November. The last we had heard we were not getting together for this birthday get together because of my one SIL going to New York and we will be having our first child at the end of October. Well evidently my MIL does not like that idea (she is really big on birthdays) and has now stirred the pot about the get together.
Well now all the SIL's and my MIL think we all need to get together, DH could care less about his birthday and does not want to get together usually under normal circumstances let alone now with everything going on. So we got a text message the other day (thurs) asking if we were going to be free on either 10/29, 11/5 or 11/12 and the party was going to be hosted at a SIL's house 2 hrs away. When DH read it to me I looked at him like are they freaking kidding! We are due 10/25, this is our first child idk if Im going to go late, early or have to have a c section. How they heck are we supposed to know if we are going to be "free" those dates.
I then talked to the MIL and told her that we will not be attending any of the dates (DH also told her the same thing). If its on 10/29 and Im still pregnant I do not want to be 2 hrs away from my hospital, and I really dont want to be taking my newborn out of the house unnecessarily for the first month, especially when that first month is during November in Illinois. So I left it with her that if they feel the need to plan this party during that time period to go ahead and do it just count us out.
So I thought it was over. NO.... Saturday I got asked by my SIL if I could HOST the party on 11/12 (and it wasnt like she said they would bring the food or anything usually when someone in his family host's something the main food items are left up to the host), she then told me that her brother (my DH) offered for us to host it. So either she is lying or there was a MAJOR line of communication messed up. Unfortunately I could not finish the conversation with her at that time, all I could tell her was "Yeah thats definitely not going to happen. Even if I felt good enough to have a family party, our house is too small to comfortably fit your whole family."
Do I have the right to be mad, are they being inconciderate or am I overreacting? I dont really know If I should just leave it like that and not say any more or if I should tell them how I feel. The SIL's and MIL usually tend to make everything about themselves, and this would be a good opportunity for me to tell them that, but I would probably just come off as a crazy hormonal pregnant lady.