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A friend of mine posted on FB that tonight was the night she let's her son CIO. He is twp days younger than DS, and I still can't imagine letting him CIO. I'm not one to tell someone how to parent, but I tear up when thinking about letting my baby cry instead of get his middle of the night snuggles with me. It makes me wanna poke her in the eye and cuddle her baby at 2am since she won't now.
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  • As much as I complain, I love those middle of the night snuggles too.  I can't imagine doing that either.  


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    A friend of mine posted on FB that tonight was the night she let's her son CIO. He is twp days younger than DS, and I still can't imagine letting him CIO. I'm not one to tell someone how to parent, but I tear up when thinking about letting my baby cry instead of get his middle of the night snuggles with me. It makes me wanna poke her in the eye and cuddle her baby at 2am since she won't now.

    CIO =/= child abuse. Just so you know.

    We use CIO because it works for our family (we started around 6 months), and that does not make me a neglectful/ bad parent.

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  • Can someone please explain to me what CIO is?  I honestly don't know..dont judge me lol
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    A friend of mine posted on FB that tonight was the night she let's her son CIO. He is twp days younger than DS, and I still can't imagine letting him CIO. I'm not one to tell someone how to parent, but I tear up when thinking about letting my baby cry instead of get his middle of the night snuggles with me. It makes me wanna poke her in the eye and cuddle her baby at 2am since she won't now.

    CIO =/= child abuse. Just so you know.

    We use CIO because it works for our family (we started around 6 months), and that does not make me a neglectful/ bad parent.

    Um.  Nobody said it made you a neglectful/bad parent.  We both just stated that it doesn't work for us and that we like to cuddle our babies in the middle of the night.  That's what works for us.  And that Pickle likes to poke people in the eye.  That's all.



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    A friend of mine posted on FB that tonight was the night she let's her son CIO. He is twp days younger than DS, and I still can't imagine letting him CIO. I'm not one to tell someone how to parent, but I tear up when thinking about letting my baby cry instead of get his middle of the night snuggles with me. It makes me wanna poke her in the eye and cuddle her baby at 2am since she won't now.

    CIO =/= child abuse. Just so you know.

    We use CIO because it works for our family (we started around 6 months), and that does not make me a neglectful/ bad parent.

    No one said it was abuse. All she said was the thought of her baby crying instead of being cuddled was sad.

     

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    A friend of mine posted on FB that tonight was the night she let's her son CIO. He is twp days younger than DS, and I still can't imagine letting him CIO. I'm not one to tell someone how to parent, but I tear up when thinking about letting my baby cry instead of get his middle of the night snuggles with me. It makes me wanna poke her in the eye and cuddle her baby at 2am since she won't now.

    CIO =/= child abuse. Just so you know.

    We use CIO because it works for our family (we started around 6 months), and that does not make me a neglectful/ bad parent.

    Um.  Nobody said it made you a neglectful/bad parent.  We both just stated that it doesn't work for us and that we like to cuddle our babies in the middle of the night.  That's what works for us.  And that Pickle likes to poke people in the eye.  That's all.

    She said she was judging her for it. Generally, you judge people when they're doing something wrong. What she's doing may be wrong for your family, but it obviously isn't for hers.

    Also the last line of the OP is what rubs me the wrong way.

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  • I try not to judge considering I am not the person waking up how many hours during the middle of the night with the child. Not everyone is capable of doing so. I feel lucky to have had a child STTN at 8 weeks. I just hope that those who are CIO do it correctly though.
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    Can someone please explain to me what CIO is?  I honestly don't know..dont judge me lol

    CIO= Cry it out.

    The short version is when it's bed time (or nap time, middle-of-the-night wake up, etc.) you put your baby to bed and allow them to self-soothe to sleep. This usually involves some yelling/crying. People's methods vary (Ferber, etc), but we do intervals. We started out with 3 minute intervals, and now we'll let him cry for about 10 minutes before we go in and shoosh/pat/rub his back. Once he calms down, we leave the room and the process repeats until he falls asleep.

    Everyone does it differently, though.

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    A friend of mine posted on FB that tonight was the night she let's her son CIO. He is twp days younger than DS, and I still can't imagine letting him CIO. I'm not one to tell someone how to parent, but I tear up when thinking about letting my baby cry instead of get his middle of the night snuggles with me. It makes me wanna poke her in the eye and cuddle her baby at 2am since she won't now.

    CIO =/= child abuse. Just so you know.

    We use CIO because it works for our family (we started around 6 months), and that does not make me a neglectful/ bad parent.

    Um.  Nobody said it made you a neglectful/bad parent.  We both just stated that it doesn't work for us and that we like to cuddle our babies in the middle of the night.  That's what works for us.  And that Pickle likes to poke people in the eye.  That's all.

    She said she was judging her for it. Generally, you judge people when they're doing something wrong. What she's doing may be wrong for your family, but it obviously isn't for hers.

    Also the last line of the OP is what rubs me the wrong way.

    Yes she said she was judging.  She did not say that the other parent was neglectful.  It was not a personal attack against you.  And what is wrong with wanting to snuggle a baby who is being ignored??  I think it is sweet. 



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  • I personally believe that teaching your child how to sleep well is more important than snuggles in the middle of the night.  I am at the later end of this board but if my baby still woke regularly in the night....I would look at what I was doing and change it!!!
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    A friend of mine posted on FB that tonight was the night she let's her son CIO. He is twp days younger than DS, and I still can't imagine letting him CIO. I'm not one to tell someone how to parent, but I tear up when thinking about letting my baby cry instead of get his middle of the night snuggles with me. It makes me wanna poke her in the eye and cuddle her baby at 2am since she won't now.

    CIO =/= child abuse. Just so you know.

    We use CIO because it works for our family (we started around 6 months), and that does not make me a neglectful/ bad parent.

    Um.  Nobody said it made you a neglectful/bad parent.  We both just stated that it doesn't work for us and that we like to cuddle our babies in the middle of the night.  That's what works for us.  And that Pickle likes to poke people in the eye.  That's all.

    She said she was judging her for it. Generally, you judge people when they're doing something wrong. What she's doing may be wrong for your family, but it obviously isn't for hers.

    Also the last line of the OP is what rubs me the wrong way.

    I agree.  It makes it seem like she doesn't want to love on her baby or something. 

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    A friend of mine posted on FB that tonight was the night she let's her son CIO. He is twp days younger than DS, and I still can't imagine letting him CIO. I'm not one to tell someone how to parent, but I tear up when thinking about letting my baby cry instead of get his middle of the night snuggles with me. It makes me wanna poke her in the eye and cuddle her baby at 2am since she won't now.

    CIO =/= child abuse. Just so you know.

    We use CIO because it works for our family (we started around 6 months), and that does not make me a neglectful/ bad parent.

    Um.  Nobody said it made you a neglectful/bad parent.  We both just stated that it doesn't work for us and that we like to cuddle our babies in the middle of the night.  That's what works for us.  And that Pickle likes to poke people in the eye.  That's all.

    She said she was judging her for it. Generally, you judge people when they're doing something wrong. What she's doing may be wrong for your family, but it obviously isn't for hers.

    Also the last line of the OP is what rubs me the wrong way.

    if you knew me, you'd know I wasn't actually judging her. People can parent however they want, its not my kid. Pull the stick out of your fatass.
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    A friend of mine posted on FB that tonight was the night she let's her son CIO. He is twp days younger than DS, and I still can't imagine letting him CIO. I'm not one to tell someone how to parent, but I tear up when thinking about letting my baby cry instead of get his middle of the night snuggles with me. It makes me wanna poke her in the eye and cuddle her baby at 2am since she won't now.

    CIO =/= child abuse. Just so you know.

    We use CIO because it works for our family (we started around 6 months), and that does not make me a neglectful/ bad parent.

    Um.  Nobody said it made you a neglectful/bad parent.  We both just stated that it doesn't work for us and that we like to cuddle our babies in the middle of the night.  That's what works for us.  And that Pickle likes to poke people in the eye.  That's all.

    She said she was judging her for it. Generally, you judge people when they're doing something wrong. What she's doing may be wrong for your family, but it obviously isn't for hers.

    Also the last line of the OP is what rubs me the wrong way.

    if you knew me, you'd know I wasn't actually judging her. People can parent however they want, its not my kid. Pull the stick out of your fatass.

    You better listen to her..she knows about pulling :insert random thing here: out of asses.  Stick out tongue

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    A friend of mine posted on FB that tonight was the night she let's her son CIO. He is twp days younger than DS, and I still can't imagine letting him CIO. I'm not one to tell someone how to parent, but I tear up when thinking about letting my baby cry instead of get his middle of the night snuggles with me. It makes me wanna poke her in the eye and cuddle her baby at 2am since she won't now.

    CIO =/= child abuse. Just so you know.

    We use CIO because it works for our family (we started around 6 months), and that does not make me a neglectful/ bad parent.

    Um.  Nobody said it made you a neglectful/bad parent.  We both just stated that it doesn't work for us and that we like to cuddle our babies in the middle of the night.  That's what works for us.  And that Pickle likes to poke people in the eye.  That's all.

    She said she was judging her for it. Generally, you judge people when they're doing something wrong. What she's doing may be wrong for your family, but it obviously isn't for hers.

    Also the last line of the OP is what rubs me the wrong way.

    if you knew me, you'd know I wasn't actually judging her. People can parent however they want, its not my kid. Pull the stick out of your fatass.

    You might want to remove the fact that you say you are judging in your title for those who do not know you then.

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    A friend of mine posted on FB that tonight was the night she let's her son CIO. He is twp days younger than DS, and I still can't imagine letting him CIO. I'm not one to tell someone how to parent, but I tear up when thinking about letting my baby cry instead of get his middle of the night snuggles with me. It makes me wanna poke her in the eye and cuddle her baby at 2am since she won't now.

    CIO =/= child abuse. Just so you know.

    We use CIO because it works for our family (we started around 6 months), and that does not make me a neglectful/ bad parent.

    Um.  Nobody said it made you a neglectful/bad parent.  We both just stated that it doesn't work for us and that we like to cuddle our babies in the middle of the night.  That's what works for us.  And that Pickle likes to poke people in the eye.  That's all.

    She said she was judging her for it. Generally, you judge people when they're doing something wrong. What she's doing may be wrong for your family, but it obviously isn't for hers.

    Also the last line of the OP is what rubs me the wrong way.

    if you knew me, you'd know I wasn't actually judging her. People can parent however they want, its not my kid. Pull the stick out of your fatass.

    Oh, bless your heart. You're just a peach, aren't you?

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  • And I never said my friend doesn't love her baby. She is obviously doing what's right for her baby and her family. That's not what's right for mine. I'm just saying how I feel, what I feel like doing, and what is right for my baby and my family. I'm not in the mood to deal with asshatery on TB tonight, and I'm not defending myself when its uneeded. This week had been enough for me already.
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    And I never said my friend doesn't love her baby. She is obviously doing what's right for her baby and her family. That's not what's right for mine. I'm just saying how I feel, what I feel like doing, and what is right for my baby and my family. I'm not in the mood to deal with asshatery on TB tonight, and I'm not defending myself when its uneeded. This week had been enough for me already.

    Well then maybe you should have kept your judgment to yourself instead of posting it on a public forum where other women may (gasp!) practice CIO.

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  • I can't let DD CIO. I'm too weak, I would rather go in there and snuggle with her in the rocking chair than let her scream for however long it took her to fall asleep.

    I did judge the girl I went to high school with when she posted on FB that she was letting her 6 week old CIO. If you wanna let your baby CIO, that's fine, but at 6 weeks? Really?


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    A friend of mine posted on FB that tonight was the night she let's her son CIO. He is twp days younger than DS, and I still can't imagine letting him CIO. I'm not one to tell someone how to parent, but I tear up when thinking about letting my baby cry instead of get his middle of the night snuggles with me. It makes me wanna poke her in the eye and cuddle her baby at 2am since she won't now.

    CIO =/= child abuse. Just so you know.

    We use CIO because it works for our family (we started around 6 months), and that does not make me a neglectful/ bad parent.

    Um.  Nobody said it made you a neglectful/bad parent.  We both just stated that it doesn't work for us and that we like to cuddle our babies in the middle of the night.  That's what works for us.  And that Pickle likes to poke people in the eye.  That's all.

    She said she was judging her for it. Generally, you judge people when they're doing something wrong. What she's doing may be wrong for your family, but it obviously isn't for hers.

    Also the last line of the OP is what rubs me the wrong way.

    if you knew me, you'd know I wasn't actually judging her. People can parent however they want, its not my kid. Pull the stick out of your fatass.

    Oh, bless your heart. You're just a peach, aren't you?

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    ...and on that note, I'm going to bed.  



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  • "if you knew me, you'd know I wasn't actually judging her. People can parent however they want, its not my kid. Pull the stick out of your fatass"

     ROTFL This is an internet forum, obviously she doesn't know you, AYFKM?

    Next time you can't take it, don't dish it. 

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  • This is too funny.

     I judge 50 Cent because he nicknamed himself after money. But if you knew me you would know I'm not judging you because naming your kid after money is what worked for your family.

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    This is too funny.

     I judge 50 Cent because he nicknamed himself after money. But if you knew me you would know I'm not judging you because naming your kid after money is what worked for your family.

    Dead.

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    A friend of mine posted on FB that tonight was the night she let's her son CIO. He is twp days younger than DS, and I still can't imagine letting him CIO. I'm not one to tell someone how to parent, but I tear up when thinking about letting my baby cry instead of get his middle of the night snuggles with me. It makes me wanna poke her in the eye and cuddle her baby at 2am since she won't now.

    CIO =/= child abuse. Just so you know.

    We use CIO because it works for our family (we started around 6 months), and that does not make me a neglectful/ bad parent.

     

     

    Are you sure?

    stirring the pot

    Muhahahahaha!!!

     

    ETA; GIF didn't work the first time.

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    A friend of mine posted on FB that tonight was the night she let's her son CIO. He is twp days younger than DS, and I still can't imagine letting him CIO. I'm not one to tell someone how to parent, but I tear up when thinking about letting my baby cry instead of get his middle of the night snuggles with me. It makes me wanna poke her in the eye and cuddle her baby at 2am since she won't now.

    CIO =/= child abuse. Just so you know.

    We use CIO because it works for our family (we started around 6 months), and that does not make me a neglectful/ bad parent.

    Are you sure?

    Yes.

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    A friend of mine posted on FB that tonight was the night she let's her son CIO. He is twp days younger than DS, and I still can't imagine letting him CIO. I'm not one to tell someone how to parent, but I tear up when thinking about letting my baby cry instead of get his middle of the night snuggles with me. It makes me wanna poke her in the eye and cuddle her baby at 2am since she won't now.

    CIO =/= child abuse. Just so you know.

    We use CIO because it works for our family (we started around 6 months), and that does not make me a neglectful/ bad parent.

     

    Are you sure?

     

    Are you kidding????? 

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  • image citychicks:
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    A friend of mine posted on FB that tonight was the night she let's her son CIO. He is twp days younger than DS, and I still can't imagine letting him CIO. I'm not one to tell someone how to parent, but I tear up when thinking about letting my baby cry instead of get his middle of the night snuggles with me. It makes me wanna poke her in the eye and cuddle her baby at 2am since she won't now.

    CIO =/= child abuse. Just so you know.

    We use CIO because it works for our family (we started around 6 months), and that does not make me a neglectful/ bad parent.

    Are you sure?

    Wow.

    Totally uncalled for.

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    A friend of mine posted on FB that tonight was the night she let's her son CIO. He is twp days younger than DS, and I still can't imagine letting him CIO. I'm not one to tell someone how to parent, but I tear up when thinking about letting my baby cry instead of get his middle of the night snuggles with me. It makes me wanna poke her in the eye and cuddle her baby at 2am since she won't now.

    CIO =/= child abuse. Just so you know.

    We use CIO because it works for our family (we started around 6 months), and that does not make me a neglectful/ bad parent.

    Um.  Nobody said it made you a neglectful/bad parent.  We both just stated that it doesn't work for us and that we like to cuddle our babies in the middle of the night.  That's what works for us.  And that Pickle likes to poke people in the eye.  That's all.

    She said she was judging her for it. Generally, you judge people when they're doing something wrong. What she's doing may be wrong for your family, but it obviously isn't for hers.

    Also the last line of the OP is what rubs me the wrong way.

    Honest question: what about it works for your family? Why do you feel it's the best thing? Also I didn't realize CIO applied to middle of the night too, like do you just leave them in there or do the interval thing at that time too?
  • I am going to go cry now because my baby will not cuddle with me in the middle of the night. The last time he cuddled with me was months ago! Maybe 4 months ago. he is Mr. Independant at night and sleeping through.
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    A friend of mine posted on FB that tonight was the night she let's her son CIO. He is twp days younger than DS, and I still can't imagine letting him CIO. I'm not one to tell someone how to parent, but I tear up when thinking about letting my baby cry instead of get his middle of the night snuggles with me. It makes me wanna poke her in the eye and cuddle her baby at 2am since she won't now.

    CIO =/= child abuse. Just so you know.

    We use CIO because it works for our family (we started around 6 months), and that does not make me a neglectful/ bad parent.

    Um.  Nobody said it made you a neglectful/bad parent.  We both just stated that it doesn't work for us and that we like to cuddle our babies in the middle of the night.  That's what works for us.  And that Pickle likes to poke people in the eye.  That's all.

    She said she was judging her for it. Generally, you judge people when they're doing something wrong. What she's doing may be wrong for your family, but it obviously isn't for hers.

    Also the last line of the OP is what rubs me the wrong way.

    Honest question: what about it works for your family? Why do you feel it's the best thing? Also I didn't realize CIO applied to middle of the night too, like do you just leave them in there or do the interval thing at that time too?

    We tried a ton of different approaches before we tried CIO. Obviously, I hate listening to my child cry, so it wasn't the first thing we did. It was a last resort because O wasn't falling asleep until between midnight and 1am most nights.

    We decided to let him self-soothe, and after a couple of weeks we were able to get him asleep by 8:30. He became a better rested, happier baby. (The lack of sleep wasn't good for any of us.)

    As far as middle of the night goes, he often wakes up about the time I get home from work (1am). We usually just do one 10 minute interval, and if he's not asleep by the end of that it's because he's hungry, so we get him up and feed him, then put him back down.

    If his crying lasts about 30 minutes ever, we always get him up and see if he's hungry/wet/whatever before trying again.

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  • My kid is *gasp* happier now that he can put himself to sleep and stay asleep thanks to Ferber.

    FFS, he was pissed, not sad, that I wouldn't come into his room. He was kicking his feet and throwing a baby temper tantrum. Now that he's getting 11+ hours of sleep every night and at least 2 good naps every day, he's no longer overtired and cranky from waking up in the middle of the night and relying on me to put him back to sleep. 

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