This is my first pregnancy, so when I became dead set on having a natural birth I found through my research that I'd greatly benefit from having a Doula. I have a disease that lowers my pain threshold to next to nothing and makes my nerves almost hyperactive during physical stress. So I thought that the pain control techniques might benefit me some. Another reason being my DH is military so I have no family in the area and unfortunately lost both my adoptive and biological Moms within the past year. I thought a Doula would be great to have not only as a advocate for me but for that female kind of support. My DH has only recently been "getting into" the pregnancy and I have a feeling if I have a moment of weakness and say something about an epidural he would cave and grab the first nurse anesthetist or anesthesiologist available! I also want my best friend to be there with me for a while but her and DH do not get along so I need a steady person who is only focused on me to be with me.
I am meeting with one of the only Doulas in my area this afternoon. She is DONA certified and has a very compassionate nature from what I can see in her testimonials and from her emails back and forth with me. Any ladies that have had Doulas out there, do you have any advice on choosing a Doula? Any specific questions I should ask? Or even things that benefitted you most by having a Doula attend your birth? Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks everyone!