I'm not sure where to even start. I know I'm not the only mom going through this, so I'm reaching out for advice on how to ease the stress and anxiety on my end. I'm losing patience and patience is key when you have children. I have a few issues that I would love any advice on. I'm not a basic caregiver, I have experience with children and typically I'm extremely good with them. For some reason, I'm at wits end with my own, sadly. I'm a work at home mom so I spend every waking hour with my children (besides now that he's in school as of last week). My husband is gone a good bit of time and therefore they are with me mostly. I should say that I've listed the problems that I'm having with my son that I just don't know where to go with it. He had many good sides and we enjoy our time together but the issues listed do cause quite a bit of stress in the house.
1. My son is a smart child, very talkative and questions everything. He is lighthearted and playful - at ALL times, even inappropriate times. I know this is normal as they can't tell the difference, but if I'm saying to him clearly, "Please, I'm asking you to stop being silly and listen (or calm down to go to bed, or whatever the case). He just keeps testing limits. And he knows that I don't know where that line is drawn myself or what step to go if he's not listening. I give him the consequence if he continues his actions and yet he STILL does what he's not supposed to. He gets the consequence (no stories, or no dessert or games etc) but FLIPS out when he doesn't get it. (THIS IS WHERE I NEED TO LEARN TO STAY CALM). He has recently said that his new teacher is mean to him because she yells at him. When talking to him he admitted it's because she's telling his table to stop talking. So he knows that he's doing something to cause that reaction but feels no need for self control. Do they even learn self control at this age? He used to follow directions splendidly, but now is more into socializing at school because he already knows the lesson plans. (which will cause a problem, but that's not the problem at other times).
2. He's overly dramatic about a lot of situations for instance a sore loser
in games he just can't control his emotions or express them.I'm not sure how to help him with this. I know my husband gets frustrated when he cries if he's losing or blows situations out of proportion. Not sure how to work with that.
3. He loses focus, even when you have his focus and tell him something very important, completely forgets it even as soon as 5 minutes later. I never really had a problem with him when he was younger but once he hit public school (and his sister was born same time), he just lost it. He always says he forgets things. I know his father is the same way, so I don't know if this is a physical issue to deal with. Someone that may have this experience would be of great help.
4. Touching private parts. ALL THE TIME. He pulls and just messes with his self all the time. Says "it tickles". Is this just a boy thing? Anyone else have this issue? Has anyone successfully stopped their son from doing it in front of people at least? We've had numerous talks with him, but he does it without noticing anymore.
Sometimes just getting outside advice puts things into perspective.