Okay, taking a crack at this ... and first off, a couple things:
1) I am in no way saying that FFFC is/ or should be entirely flamefree. If I have a confession, I always go in with a flame retardant suit on ... cause that is the name of the game!
2) I am not defending Aleksmar, just offering a different perspective that I feel has been lost ... and may be where she is coming from.
While we are all quick to jump on the "how dare you wish your baby out early bandwagon" (and somewhat rightfully so), and quick to address the preemie moms who are hurt by those who say these things (again, 100% rightfully so ... I too was the mom watching her tiny baby fight - and lose the fight - for breath because she was born early), the one group who is being forgotten in this is the woman who has experience late term stillbirth.
Women who have had unexpected fetal death in the late weeks of pregnancy are terrified when they reach those weeks again. They feel their body "failed" the first time ... and often just want their babes out early. Not because they aren't aware of the risks ... but because they feel like at least doctors can watch, monitor, and react better to the babe outside the womb. Having a babe die in utero late term can completely shake your confidence that your body is the safest place for babe until full term is reached.
Anyhow, I am not sure what my point is in all this ... probably should have just remained quiet. But I am cranky today and felt like it should at least be said.
Again, not trying to say I don't get just as ticked when women "wish" babies out early because they are uncomfortable or when they say insensitive things that hurt others (in this case the preemie moms). I do ... I get downright upset.
But, just a different perspective ...