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We just don't do it anymore. We've tried. I just can't. Nothing works, nothing is comfortable, and I can't get into it. It happened in my first pregnancy, too, and is totally normal.
It's not that huge of a deal to me, as I know this is a short time period in our lives, and everything returned well and normal after the first child.
I would try doing a nice dinner over candlelight, say over the weekend. Cook sometime nice or bring take out home, something romantic, set the mood. Maybe watch a sexy seductive movie(if you know any) and just take it slow. Ensure hubby smells good and if he's used to shaving, then him have a smooth face. Just try making out and see where that goes!? Seems to get me way more in the mood, if you spend a couple hours flirting and smooth talking then just jumping right in the sac. Good luck. And just remember, like PP said, this isn't a "long" period of your life. I would just suggest romance and foreplay. They may not satisfy you like sex, but they are fulfilling! Have fun with it...think teenage years ;)
Are you able to orgasm on your own right now?
My drive hasn't changed at all but it sure seems like an art to get everything line up right these days.
This is going to sound just awful, but I'll be honest. I've told my DH that I have little to no drive, but he still tries to initiate it.
So, I let him and I pretend a lot. :/ I mean, sometimes I end up genuinely enjoying myself but mostly- a lot of pretending going on...
niknak1128:Yeah we're having a hard time too. It's hard because I honestly do not feel like it.. pretty much ever. The few times we have done it.. it's been super uncomfortable and actually the last time it just plain hurt. We actually had to stop because it was just so uncomfortable for me. I feel guilty because DH constantly talks about it.. how he's not getting it.. how he doesn't understand how I don't want to.. how he's wondering if he'll ever get it again. lol I mean he hasn't been mean to me about it but it's kinda bothering me. There's no way for me to explain to him how uncomfortable it is for me.. there's no way he'll relate to it but it literally is just not fun at all for me.
This, word for word. And I couldn't be less interested in resolving the issue, tbh. I've got too much else on my mind, DH can just suck it up for a few months and deal.