Okay so I'm not being a skeptic. This is the truth for us. As a very very very last resort, I tried to do Ferber with Ana. (she got strep and went from sleeping all night to waking every 2 hours.) I read the book, etc.
So this is how it played out for us...
I ferber her to sleep. Reach the max 30 mins between checks (which KILLS me) and we do that for 2 hours. Finally out of exhaustion she falls asleep. (which I feel is wrong but anyway...)
Then two hours later she's up again. This is where it gets bad. She will not go back to sleep after she wakes the second time using ferber. After three nights of trying to ferber for 4 freakin hours and then giving in and sitting by her until she falls asleep, I don't know what to do and obviously I'm very tired.
We tried this a month ago with the same results. There are clearly 2 problems.
1. my kid has separation issues. She can fall asleep fine on her own as long as she knows I'm sitting in her doorway.The No Cry Sleep solution says the next step is to be outside the door but we can't get to that step. She freaks.
2. She's the poster child for perseverance. She will not give up.
So.... now what do I do?
FWIW, I've also tried going in and praising her every 30 seconds that she stays in her bed, and then waiting longer and longer before going in, hoping that maybe something more positive would work better with my sensitive child. That made the headway that allows me to sit in her doorway but if I'm out of sight she's a mess.
So... what would you do next? I'm all for rocking her to sleep. I'm NOT all for waking every 2 hours at 20 mos old. And, DH won't allow her in the bed.