I had it after we got pregnant but I got it again last night, I'm so excited to have DS2 but DS1 is so content in his little world that I feel guilty. We decided to have our children close together for their benefit so I know this is what we want but I just feel like poor DS. Its ALL about him right now, he has my constant attention as well as my husband and my parents, and soon he is going to have to share the spot light. My mom doesn't help because every time we even talk about DS2 she talks about how hard its going to be for DS1. "Poor Wyatt when he has to leave you at the hospital", "poor Wyatt when your having to feed Evan", etc.
Okay vent over, thanks for listening!
Re: Mommy guilt kicked in again...
I'm in exactly the same boat. I cried while putting DD down for nap yesterday
I hear ya.
But as a kid without parents, I absolutey treasure that I have siblings. So I focus on that. I could be satisfied as just DD's mother, but I want her to have a sibling. I don't want her to be alone when she has "older" parents, or when we are gone. There is no guarantee they will be close, but at least they will have a connection.
It does make me sad that this will rock her world. I just pray she will love and adore our DS!
DMoney will be a kickass big sister
Your kids will take their cues from you. If you feel guilty, then they will regress and act out. If you make them feel like they are important because they now have the role of older sibling they will step up to be the big brother/sister.
My husband and I never felt guilty for having another child. Instead we prepared our children for their new role and what it meant having a baby in the house.