Our good friends had their LO this morning! So very happy and excited for them. Except, now my DH is pestering me to go up to the hospital and see them. Maybe it's just me, but I have only visited ONE friend/relative in the hospital after she gave birth, and it was by her request and out of necessity since she was super early and asked me to bring a few things she needed. I always felt like it wasn't my place to be at the hospital- what new mother, after giving birth to a baby, wants to host every friend and family member she knows as they parade through her hospital room? Wearing a gown that leaves you half naked, sore, in pain, tired, who knows what... Not exactly a Suzie Homemaker hostess moment. He doesn't seem to think there's anything wrong with it.
Now, it's opened up a can of worms about our arrangements for delivery. I thought we were on the same page about not having friends visit the hospital. In fact, I didn't really even love the idea of having both of our (large) families to deal with right after delivery, but I accepted that they will be there waiting for their first grandchild/neice/nephew no matter what we tell them. We planned to call them when I was 8ish-cm so that they make it there in time for delivery but couldn't harrass me in the hospital for however long it takes to give birth (they are ABSOLUTELY the type of people who would knock on the door to peak in and see us every 20 minutes if they got passed the nurses station). We also decided to ask friends and other extended family to give us some time to bond and get adjusted and we'd extend an invite to come see us at home when we were ready.
Now, DH keeps saying, "We'll see, we'll see." So I just had a hormonal flip out on him. I yelled, "NO, YOU will see! I'M the one that will be sick, tired, torn, stitched up, drugged up and exhausted and half naked. I will NOT have visitors. I need to REST and RECOURPERATE and bond with the baby. END OF STORY. When YOU push a baby out of your pee-hole you can decide whether or not to accept visitors 20 seconds after the most intense thing your body will every go through!" I honestly never pulled the 'When YOU have the baby' card on him before and felt bad for doing it, but enough is enough! I'm compromising on so many things that I didn't think I would do when I was imagining being pregnant (like being team green, for example). I was in L&D last week and was a huge baby and a bad patient- I can only imagine what the actual birth will be like, and I KNOW I will not want to be visiting with people yet.
Am I wrong on this one?