I cannot stand hearing these two words out of other womens mouths when they ask if I plan on getting an epidural and I say "no". If it was said in a kind "you can do it" voice that would be fine. But it's always from moms who have had epidurals and they say it in a "you're a total fool and I doubt you can do it" tone. It's so irritating, I never judge someone who wants to or has had an epidural. Every body and every birth is different and it's a personal choice.
Lastly, WHY oh WHY must other women who have recently had babies discuss all of the negative things that happened!??!?! "I had a 4th degree tear and I'm so thankful I chose the epidural!" or "omg it was horrible, and I would never try and be a hero (that too makes me cringe) and not get the drugs" or when they tell other pregnant women " JUST GET THE DRUGS!!!!!!!!!" BAHHHHH it makes me batttttttty!!!!
I am making a promise to myself that even if something is not "picture perfect" with this birth, that I will only share the POSITIVE parts of giving birth with others!!! And really why does everyone want to know who did or didn't get an epidural? WTF does it matter to anyone else? meh...... (can you tell I just came from a baby shower where there were a bunch of women sharing their stories!?!?!