TTC after 35

I'm back - with an update - I missed you all!

Hello ladies - I'm back!

First, I am sorry for the disappearing act. I just needed a break and with everything that has gone on the last month and a half, I just had to unplug from the Bump for a little while. I hope you understand. I did lurk periodically to check in on you. But, I am back now!

Ok, so let's see where we left off... Work had been a beast this year and I am convinced the added stress was contributing to my IUI failures. Then in mid-April, I was laid off. Sounds horrible, but it was really a blessing in disguise. It was a Monday and IUI #5 was scheduled for Wednesday! I had a Junior League meeting that night that I seriously wanted to skip-out on since I didn't know what the lack of employment would do to the baby-making plans. I am single, remember, so no husband with a second income in this household. It's all me. Anyway, I decided to go to the meeting anyway since I sit on the steering committee for our largest fundraiser. I got there early and was talking to my friend Jamie and telliing her about work. Right then and there, she offered me a job consultiing for her communications company.

It's awesome and the prefect job for me. I'm a contract employee so no benefits, but I can handle that on my own since my hourly rate is so much higher than my previous salary. I work flexible hours, from home - about 25-30 hours a week. And still make more money than my advertising job. I am loving it! I feel like I spent the last 12 years of my career being overly ambitious at the expense of having a family. Always working hard, trying to prove myself, trying to get the next promotion. I am done with all that. I am just happy being good at what I do. I have never been happier.

Unfortunately, IUI #5 was still a failure. I was really bummed as it seemed to be the perfect scenario, but it was not to be. That's when I disappeared. I just needed a break. I even disappeared from my RE too. Well, it's been a month and I went into see the RE today for a WTF consult. I am much more discouraged than he seems to be. There is technically nothing wrong with me, I just seem to get the crap end of the odds. We decided that I would take this month off as well and then try one more medicated IUI in July. (I have one vial left). If that does not work, I will select a new donor and proceed with IVF in the Fall. I hate the thought of the $$$, but I like having a plan.

I think I might actually be able to afford IVF, but only because I got a sweet severance from my old job and started working the new job a few weeks later. It's funny how everythign works out.

So, here I am on CD2, waiting for this period to end and the next one to begin so I can give IUI with donor 12028 one more chance.

I'm starting to read through all the posts again, but I can't wait for all your updates.

I missed you!

Glad to be back,


Single Mother by Choice. Life didn't work out the way I planned so I did it on my own. IUI #s 1-3, unmedicated = BFN, IUI #s 4-6, 50mg Clomid, Ovidrel = BFN IVF #1: 23R, 20M, 17F. 5 day transfer 2 blasts. 2 Snowbabies BFP 6dp5dt, Beta #1 7dp5dt = 58, Beta #2 9dp5dt = 114, Beta #3 10dp5dt = 187 1st Ultrasound = 5/3, not much to see yet. 2nd Ultrasound = 5/17, TWINS!!! Hospital Bed Rest at 32 weeks due to pre-ecclampsia and severe edema. Audrey Grace, 5lbs9oz, & Lydia Louise, 6lbs, born via emergency c-section on 12/6/12 at 36w1d My IVF Journey

Re: I'm back - with an update - I missed you all!

  • I am glad to hear that you are well! Also, so nice to hear good news about better, and less stressful employment. I have a feeling I am heading for IVF too. Though I am going to have to beg, borrow, or steal to pay for it. Welcome back!

    IVF Oct '11 brought us the little man of our dreams on July 29, 2012!

  • Glad to see you back.  So glad your job situation worked out so well.  That's wonderful.  Good luck with your IUI.  I hope it's the one for you.
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    Happy to see you're back Melle.  I am sorry to hear about number 5, but it sounds like everything is looking up for you. Thank goodness for blessings in disguise!
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  • great story about the job!  the tone of your update sounds really optimistic.  

    keep the baby faith ... i feel like a broken record these days, but have you tried acupuncture?


  • Nice to have you back! I'm sorry #5 was a failure, but I'm so happy for you that other things have turned around in positive ways. I hope a little more break time will continue to increase the positive trend, and #6 does it for you.
    TTC #1 since June 2010
    Me: 36, DH: 42
    Dx: DOR and MFI

    DH: low count + very low motility; hormones all normal; Sperm DNA Frag. test = poor to fair; male karyotyping normal
    Me: FSH 13.4 + AMH 0.26 + hypothyroidism; Scratch the hypothyrodism (?); Blood clotting and immune panel all negative; endometrial biopsy normal

    IVF #1 (MDLF - Jul/Aug 2011): BFN (9R, 5M, 3F with ICSI, 3dt of 1 10-cell grade 2, no frosties)
    IVF #2 (EP-antagonist - Sep/Oct 2011): BFN (6R, 4M, 3F w/ ICSI, 3dt of 1 6-cell, 1 7-cell, grade 4s, no frosties)
    DE IVF #1 (shared cycle - June 2012): c/p (6R, 6F w/ICSI, 3dt 1 8-cell grade A- and 1 7-cell grade A-; no frosties)
    DE IVF #2 (shared cycle with new donor - Nov/Dec/ 2012): - BFP!!!!! 12/14/12. U/S on 12/27 shows twins!!!!!

  • Yay!  super congrats on the new job, it sounds perfect. 
    IVF#1 May 2011 15 Eggs Retrieved, 11 Fertilized using ICSI + HPT on 6/9/11 Beta #1 420 Beta #2 2167 US 7/1 TWINS!! Due 2/18/2012 Brooke and Nora born at 35.6 weeks Jan 20th 2012
  • Welcome back!  I have always said that things happen for a reason.  Even if I don't know why at the time, it become clear after it's all said & done. 
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    Married 07/04/10 - Me 40 & DH 46 - Tried conceiving for 2 1/2 years, including IUI, but no luck. Were about to do IVF at the end of 2012, but my body started shutting down. Made the decision to have a hysterectomy in January 2013. Met an amazing little boy in July 2012 that needed a family & decided to move forward with adopting him. He has made our family complete & we are happier than we ever thought that we could be!
  • So glad to hear the good news about your new job. That is fantastic! Nice to see you online again. Smile

  • Hey Melle,

    Glad you are back! I totally get the need for a break at times. I'm so happy to hear about your new job. It sounds wonderful!  I'm sorry #5 didn't work. There really is no rhyme or reason on these things. I hope you don't have to move on to IVF but it is there if "we" need it.  Welcome back!!

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days


    SAIF/PAIF Welcome

  • so glad to have you back!  I'm off for the next two cycles as well so we can be impatient together!
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  • Welcome back Melle!  Glad that you've had some break time and your new job sounds fantastic!!  Sorry that IUI #5 wasn't your cylce, hope that you get you BFP with #6.  Thanks for popping in, many gals were concerned when we hadn't heard from you.  Best of luck!
    TTC since 10/09 Me-43 DH-44 RE and testing 10/10-11/10, Recommending IVF 1/11 New RE AMA and DOR-DH low motility IVF #1.1 cancelled 3/11 due to poor response IVF #1.2 May 2011, one perfect 8-cell embryo, 3dt-BFN, IVF #2.1 Converted to IUI d/t poor response. New RE 9/2011. IVF 2.2 completed using HGH,EPP,DHEA, Q-10 and accupuncture. Transferred one 8-cell, grade one embryo on 10/19. BFP 10/31/11 Chemical pregancy on 11/2/11. Started stims for IVF #3, our final try, on 12-2-11. ET on 12/18. Transferred 3 Grade A embryos-BFFN Planning DE IVF, late March/early April- Donors ER expected to be 4/2-4/4. PAIF/SAIF welcome
  • YAY! Welcome back!! Im glad things are going well for you! Boo for IUI failure....Mine was a bust too.  I was terminated from my job 5/2 and started a new job on 5/9. The only bad thing is that I am temp to hire so no benefits right now. Hopefully in 2 months that will change (CA has 90 day probation). So hopefully soon we will be back on the IUI/IVF track. For now, its good ole baby dancing!
    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers Daisypath Anniversary tickers image Me - 41 DH - 28 **** Proud mom to Christopher, dob 7/15/92 **** Nathaniel dob 1/18/05 -1/18/05 (8 mos) in heaven **** bfp 8/26/10 m/c 10/14/10 at 7 wks. **** D&C 10/15/10 **** Cycles 1-4 BFN's **** Cycle #5 - 100 mg Clomid **** IUI #1 - 04/23/11 and 4/24/11 - 5/8/11 IUI #1 = BFFN BFP 10/14/11 - EDD 6/22/12** Stick little one Stick! Athena Jane 5/31/12 - 8/28/12
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