A little background first.
SIL is 23, lives with a drug dealer (by choice and claims she doesn't use even though she does) and always dates losers. For the past two months she has been dating a guy who also lives with a drug dealer and also claims to be clean.
Now for the vent:
SIL called and asked what SO and I were doing this weekend. I gave her a general idea of our plans and then asked why she wanted to know. She told me that her and her new BF were wanting to come for a visit. I told her that I would get SO to call her when he got home from work.
When SO got home I told him about the phone call and then told him that I would prefer we postpone them coming to another weekend for a few reasons:
SO told me that he agreed with me and that he would ask SIL to stay at a hotel if they came. He called SIL and made plans to discuss things further at another time.
That was yesterday.
Today SO called SIL when he got home from work to tell her that he didn't know his work schedule yet and he would have to call her back tomorrow. He asked her if they planned on staying in a hotel and she said no, that they would be staying in our guest room. SO told her that he wasn't comfortable with that and him and SIL ended up getting into a big fight. A couple of minutes later MIL calls and starts yelling at SO before hanging up on him. MIL has loved all of SIL's BF's before they go to jail/rehab/back to their wives so I don't trust her opinion.
SO hung up the phone after MIL hung up on him and starts yelling at me, telling me that he doesn't have a problem with this guy staying since he probably won't steal anything, bring drugs into the house or harm DD. He then went on to email SIL and tell her that this was all me and if it were up to him they would stay in our home no problem . I am dumbfounded, SO has never in our relationship done something like this. IMO, when you are a serious couple you stand up for each other and when you are parents you make decisions together. SO was in complete agreeance with me until MIL yelled at him. He hates when other people are mad at him but seems to not mind as much when I am mad at him.
Thanks for letting me vent, I just felt like I had to get that out.