I need help figuring out how to talk to my sensitive mom. She knows so much about kids and babies because she is a social worker, and that is what she specialized in.. but I think that its becoming a bit of a double edged sword. =(
Every time I pick up my own daughter, she cringes like Im mistreating her. Whenever I let her watch the baby, and then go to pick her up, she refers to me as "that lady" and makes negative comments about how the baby doesnt want to come with me, she wants to stay with her. Anytime I tell her something that Im doing with DD, she has a snide remark, and when I send her a picture of a milestone (for instance the first time she for real smiled at me) her response is usually.. the picture was too dark.. I dont think that she really was.
On top of that she is being very critical of my PP, PC-section, body. She is constantly saying how Im broken out all the time, how my hair looks bad, and how I really need to get on losing that flap. I have had so many complications that I am just now really able to carry DD's carseat myself, let alone be on a workout schedule.
I love her so so much and appreciate all the help that she has given me, and Im scared that when I try to talk to her about these things she will blow it out of proportion and say she wont tell me advice anymore or pouty kinds of things like that.