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What scares you most about becoming a mom?

I know I'll be faced with a lot of challenges, sleep deprivation etc, but I think money scares me the most. Day care around here is about 2,000 a month and then of course there's lots of other expenses. I think it will be a challenge, but well worth it! Scary nonetheless though!

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  • ShaylizShayliz
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    The only thing that really scares me is actually giving birth. I'm not too worried about anything after baby comes.
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  • I want a LO so badly, but am really scared of post pardum depression.  I've never had a history of depression, but it scares me b/c it is not something that is preventable.  I guess I watch too many Lifetime movies. Embarrassed
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    Lack of sleep!!  I don't do well on no sleep so being sleep deprived for God knows how long is terrifying to me!  
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    The only thing that really scares me is actually giving birth. I'm not too worried about anything after baby comes.

     

    this. and lack of sleep. 

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    Lack of sleep!!  I don't do well on no sleep so being sleep deprived for God knows how long is terrifying to me!  

    This! I'm hard to be around if I'm just up past my bed time. People are going to hate me for a while...

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  • I'm scared of giving birth as well, but not about the pain or anything. I'm scared something is going to go wrong. I'm also scared of something happening to my baby. I just want a healthy child, and the things that can go wrong are endless. I try not to think about it too much...it freaks me out.

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  • The teenage years.  I only hope I can raise them right.

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  • I have to agree with the money thing just because that is the way I always am. I know we'll have enough, but I also know it will be a lot tighter and it isn't like we spend money extravagantly as it is. I can't wait until these student loans are out of the way!
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    I have to agree with the money thing just because that is the way I always am. I know we'll have enough, but I also know it will be a lot tighter and it isn't like we spend money extravagantly as it is. I can't wait until these student loans are out of the way!

     

    Student loans are the devil! haha I feel the same way!

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    Lack of sleep!!  I don't do well on no sleep so being sleep deprived for God knows how long is terrifying to me!  

    This! I'm hard to be around if I'm just up past my bed time. People are going to hate me for a while...

    Seriously!  MH calls me Mrs. Cranky Pants when I haven't gotten enough sleep.  haha! 

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    Lack of sleep!!  I don't do well on no sleep so being sleep deprived for God knows how long is terrifying to me!  

    This! I'm hard to be around if I'm just up past my bed time. People are going to hate me for a while...

    Seriously!  MH calls me Mrs. Cranky Pants when I haven't gotten enough sleep.  haha! 

    I don't have a cute nn, I'm just crazy. Lol.

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  • Giving Birth. I'm petrified of needles (like serious no-joke phobia), so it's going to have to be totally drug-free! EEP!

    That, and like PP said, Post Partum Depression. I already take medicine for depression/anxiety and I'm afraid having a baby will kick that into overdrive (even though it is VERY controlled now) 

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  • Good question Redsox! I'm scared about money as well, there's just never enough to go around, no matter how hard you try! I'm scared that I won't want to go back to work, but I will have to because of the first fear lol. I have lots of friends who fully intended on returning to work and then just didn't want to go back and have the option to stay at home. I won't have that option as I'm the bread winner of the family. I'm also scared of the sleep deprivation, I love sleep!
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    No sleep - I am an 8-9 hour girl or I am NOT fun.

    Health issues/complications as others have said.

    Drama from having all the grandparents so close - we all get along great, and I love my folks and his, but I know everybody has different parenting philosophies and will want to "help" -  I guess that is a silly thing to be scared about, but I worry about it sometimes.

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  • Like others have said, I think I'm mostly scared about actually giving birth. Mainly because it would be my 1st, so I don't know what to expect. "Are they going to give me my epidural in time? How long will labor be? Will I be able to give birth vaginally? Will they have to do an ER C-section?" ect, ect...

    Something about the "unknown" always scares the crap out of me.

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    All of the above. I'm terrified. But I think the fear is a good thing. It tells me that I'm not fooling myself. It's not a fairy tale - this is going to be the hardest job that I will ever do. I think I'm much better prepared if I know that going in.
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  • I'd also say lack of sleep and post partum depression. I'm going to have to go back to work and am wondering how I'll function with so little sleep!
  • Giving birth, day care and still having the energy to look and feel good as a woman and not just a mother.
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  • I must be kind of abnormal, because I'm not really scared about anything. I know that issues can come up, but I'm just not that freaked out about it. I'm not afraid of childbirth...if billions of women could do it, I can do it. (And I'm all crunchy and plan on going totally natural, and probably doing home birth. Crazy. Smile) I think the one thing that gets me the closest to scared is the thought of having teens...especially the thought of them driving. I just hope I've taught them good values by that point and that they'll make good choices.

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  • 1. giving birth

    2. dealing with no sleep

    3. dealing with family drama since my parents my ILs don't get along

    4. finding time to maintain my professional care

    5. Doing a good job teaching my child about life and learning  

    the list goes on and on. I know it will all be worth, it though!  


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  • image melissa721:
    Giving birth, day care and still having the energy to look and feel good as a woman and not just a mother.

    This too! I'm scared that I will completely lose my identity as a woman, I would like to be able to keep that part of me and add the mother part. Good call Melissa!

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    I know I'll be faced with a lot of challenges, sleep deprecation etc, but I think money scares me the most. Day care around here is about 2,000 a month and then of course there's lots of other expenses. I think it will be a challenge, but well worth it! Scary nonetheless though!

    You'll find a way to make it work. When it comes to money there are always things you can do to make ends meet. Not always ideal or comfortable, but doable. Before DH got his new job we were literally selling our posessions to make it work and both working full time. It was a rough few months, but we made it work and we're stronger now because of it.

  • Definitely the sleep! It's nice to be able to admit this to other people. Sometimes I feel like I don't deserve to be a mom if I'm afraid of being sleep deprived Indifferent
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    image Redsoxchick:
    I know I'll be faced with a lot of challenges, sleep deprecation etc, but I think money scares me the most. Day care around here is about 2,000 a month and then of course there's lots of other expenses. I think it will be a challenge, but well worth it! Scary nonetheless though!

    This made me LOL because I am pretty sure becoming a mom does not = pooping in your sleep...but the baby..yeah they will do that ALOT!!

     

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  • Ellis31Ellis31
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    Having enough money for sure...very scary.
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  • #1 Postpartum - I've heard some horror stories and it's a very big fear.

    #2 Lack of sleep and the effect it will have on my relationships - husband, family, friends, work... I'm not so cheery when I'm tired!


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    image melissa721:
    Giving birth, day care and still having the energy to look and feel good as a woman and not just a mother.

    This too! I'm scared that I will completely lose my identity as a woman, I would like to be able to keep that part of me and add the mother part. Good call Melissa!

    This is SO how I feel.

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    SA - Slightly abnormal shape

    Follistim + IUI #1 = BFN

     Follistim + IUI #2 = BFN

    Follistim, Baby Aspirin, CoQ10, DHEA + IUI #3 = Very late BFP with super low Progesterone

    bfp 4 - IUI #3 19DPIUI Beta: 45, 22 DPIUI Beta 31...c/p waiting to happen.


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