I am working with a client who, as of today, is 40 weeks. She had been planning on me being at her birth, we have done our prenatals, etc... but they waited until their appointment a few days ago to tell him they were planning on me being there.
He said he doesn't work with doulas.
So much so, that he gave them referrals for other doctors who might take them on so late in the game. :( Mom doesn't want to change docs though... and I don't blame her - what a stress to have right at go-time.
So.. the plan is, as of right now, for me to go with them and help them labor at their home for as long as they are comfortable and then, when they are ready to transfer, I just won't go. :(
I offered for them to give their doc my name, number, website information, whatever is necessary, to try to convince him to give me a chance. The sad thing is, I have been in situations before when the doc has said (s)he was not comfortable/did not work with doulas only to have them thanking me for giving them a new perspective on doulas/regain their confidence in doulas after the birth.
I so hope this one ends up similarly. :(
It sucks. Sorry, just needed to vent - I feel so bad for them :(x2