DD's delivery was kind of a nightmare. I had a very fast labor for a first time mother (14 hours from first big contraction to DD's arrival and that includes 2 hours of pushing) but I wound up with a 3rd degree perineal tear and from what I've seen looking now that my scar has healed, it looks like it was caused by my episiotomy. I didn't have an epidural until I was in transition and really only took it because I was being told that it was my "last chance" and I was afraid of needing it later and not having it (stupid, I know) and that kind of led to the other interventions I didn't want and tried to refuse but unsuccessfully (pitocin, episiotomy, etc)
I especially did NOT want an episiotomy! I said, "no, please don't, is that really necessary?" because I happened to see my OB wielding the scissors. He didn't even think to mention he was planning to do one! The response was simply "I have to" and he snipped and that ended the discussion. I have since been told by a friend who is big on natural birth that the exact phrase you have to use to stop them is "I do not consent" Do any of you know if this is the case?
In any event, I guess it's a moot point as I plan to go natural the next time but I was just wondering if anyone else has ever heard of having to use this phrase before? At the risk of sounding like a wuss, I STILL feel somewhat victimized by saying no and being hurt anyway. I've had a lot of unnecessary pain because of it.