ILs aren't coming to visit LO :(
DH got the call tonight that his parents (who live a good 10hr drive away in FL) will not be coming to visit us or LO until June. We are being induced tomorrow and they were planning on driving up this way as soon as FIL got off of work through the night to come visit us. I am really, super disappointed. They aren't coming for financial reasons but I'm still really down in the dumps over it. I don't get along with them at all but I hate the fact that LO won't be meeting her grandparents until she's 2 and a half months old!
I'm also a little ticked because now SIL wants to just 'send us money' instead of visit us in two weeks as well. What the hell!? She's already booked her hotel room and supposedly bought tickets for her family to do things up here, so I don't get it. Two and a half years ago when she had her son I was out of a job and DH was newly employeed and couldn't get any time off so we suffered the 10hr drive (twice in one weekend!) to see them. So to be honest I'm a little ticked that there is no 'two way street' thing with my IL's. And I'm sad for my baby girl because she's the one getting the short end of the stick.
June Siggy: Fave pic of Aubrey and me 
Re: ILs aren't coming to visit LO :(
Ditto. I'd be frustrated too, having made the effort myself and not having it returned, but LO won't really notice and now you know not to feel horrible when you can't always make it to family things.
Enjoy your special time with LO. Its not really her that's being shorted, its your ILs and its their own problem.
You know what, that is so true.
June Siggy: Fave pic of Aubrey and me
It is hard when we have an idea of what family does for each other and then no one else shares that. I understand
My MIL and her husband live in their own world and don't get the obligations and such the rest of us have. I feel bad for DH, he loves his mom, but has always been pushed aside in life for her whims.
That said, he is the oldest and this is the first grandchild. She has entertained the idea of coming in June, but could be August. I just don't get why she wouldn't want to come sooner, even if her husband isn't entirely sold on coming. But again, that is what I would do for my family and I have to get over that it hurts DH and myself and focus on the fact we have our baby girl coming!
Best of luck to you tomorrow! I can't wait to see pictures! And just focus on what you can control, not what you can't
DD 2.0 ~ 12/30/2013
I understand your disappointment, but it's probably for the best. Aren't these the in-laws where FIL or someone spit in your face, and someone once threatened you? I think you're better off without them (for now, at least). Just enjoy your time with you, DH, your little girl, and your mom :-)
Hugs!
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Thank you! This is definitely where my hurt feelings stem from - we did it for them without thinking twice about doing it. I just figured that it's what family does for one another. Oh well, fool me once shame on you, right?
Yes, unfortunatley these are the psychopathic people. I'm happy we are not raising our chil(ren) around them but am sad that they aren't making the effort to be apart of our LO's life. Crazy way of thinking, but this is DH's parents and he loves them and misses them tremendously. I know he's disappointed they won't be here to share such a monumental moment in his life which kills me (it kills me even more that he craves their support still) but at the same time we're very happy to be able to have more alone time now to focus on being a family.
June Siggy: Fave pic of Aubrey and me
I can relate to you in so many ways. We have no family coming for LO's birth. My mother is a devout Catholic who refuses to travel during Lent (she doesn't want to be away from her Church)
So instead, she'll come to see us after Easter. My father (they are divorced) is thinking he may come in May or June.
Dh's parents are too busy to come. His sister and her husband are leaving their 4 children with them for a week so they can go on vacation. There is a ton of backstory on this situation (I'll spare the details)
My sister is set to come on 4/7. She is staying for 3 days. I am glad she is coming. It should be mentioned that the only reason she is coming is because MH emailed her and gave her some grief about how nobody is coming for the baby.
I have some friends from work who may stop by the hospital and perhaps a few other friends who may as well. I am over being disappointed by the family. The bottom line is, this is about who is there not who isn't.
I agree. I live in Tennessee and my family in Nova Scotia. It will be a month or 2 before my Mom gets here to visit and the rest of my family won't meet my daughter until Christmas when she is 8-9 months old. I wish it was different, and sometimes it makes me sad, but it is what it is, you know? Try to focus on the good stuff.