I apologize as I have posted about frustrations with my mom before but it is driving me insane. I really like hearing from people who can relate.
My mom is severely depressed, I am an only child, her focus is 10000000000% on me. It is very very suffocating. She honestly has nothing else going on, as she is not working and sits in the house all day. She is physically and mentally not well. She is extremely sensitive about everything.
I obviously want her involved in my pregnancy and with my baby, but she takes things to such an extreme. She uses my pregnancy as an excuse to call me constantly, at least 2x a day. I just gently asked her to call less, as I am exhausted and am working a full time job right now as well as starting my own business. ?She did listen to me and is calling a bit less, but I feel like I hurt her feelings. I always end up feeling guilty and as if I'm not doing enough for her.
My current gripe is that she has been emailing me- no joke-- at least 10-15 times a day with different decorating ideas for the nursery or things to buy for the baby. After I asked her to call less, its seems the emailing got worse. I know if I say something, I am just going to hurt her feelings again, but I feel like I need to set boundaries and this is so ridiculous. I need breathing room!
I want to make decisions about what to buy my baby primarily with my husband. She treats me like I am still 8 years old and need help with everything. I want her involved to some extent, but I want her to stop obsessing over everything. I told her I want to decorate the nursery in lavender and in no time I got bombarded with emails with different lavender accessories.?It also is ridiculous that I see some of her emails are sent to me at 2 or 3 am, and to think she is just sitting up all night researching baby products on the internet is ridiculous.
Thanks for listening, I just want to scream! I also understand that I am lucky she is involved.... so I dont mean to sound ungrateful...... pregnancy is just so overwhelming and it doesnt help to have my mother breathing down my neck....?