Background-my family: I don't speak with my father. I don't even think he knows I'm married, let alone pg, and I'd like to keep it that way. I don't intend to ever speak with him again if I can avoid it. My mother passed away 6 years ago in a car wreck. I have one sibling, in law school, who has a long time boyfriend who I can't stand. My mother had several siblings but they are all much older and while one set did have kids, I did not at all agree with their parenting style, neither did my mother.
Background- dh's family: His parents are hoarders, there's no nice way to put it. I've got several weddings after LO's due date and have already requested they come here to watch LO because I'm not comfortable with their house unless some SERIOUS changes happen between now and July. DH has two younger siblings that are both sort of flighty and in "transitionary" stages of their lives. He is not close with his extended family.
So I tell DH that he doesn't have to decide today, but we need to put some serious thought into who would be the guardian for LO if something happened to both of us at the same time. I have a will, he doesn't, and we'll need to get stuff in order sooner rather than later. We have an otherwise really good working relationship with his parents and I don't want to offend them but given his mom's current physical state and the state of their house, if something happened, I wouldn't want them to be guardians. And I don't trust anyone in my family either. Has anyone else had anything like this? DH's response was, "No one. No one will be good enough." Well, yes, I agree, except that's not a reasonable answer. Never in my life did I think I'd lose my mom to some stupid drunk driver but it happened. So that causes me to be freakish about stuff like this. :-/
Thank you if you made it all the way through this- I know no one gives a hoot about my family issues but DH is not being any help and I figure someone else has got to have encountered something similar... maybe...?