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I say call if if you have the time. Just tell them say you saw they didn't R.S.V.P. and you just want to make sure you got the invite.
Every party I throw it seems like very few people R.S.V.P. most just show up. My parents anniversary party I think 30 couples out of 65 R.S.V.P. yes. The rest did not R.S.V.P we ended up with about 100 guests. So out of 65 couples 20 showed up with out letting us know they were coming. I planned on food to feed 120.
If the RSVP deadline has passed, she can call them.
I would rather call than assume they are not attending because there is always a chance that someone who hasn't responded never got the invitation in the first place.
I would use pp's advice and call a couple days after the RSVP date has passed. I threw a big surprise 60th b'day for my father a couple of years ago and was amazed by the number of people his age who didn't respond. I mean, really? I can see younger generations not abiding by etiquette, but I thought our parents and grandparents "knew better"!
Anyway, call them. Perhaps it'll make a few of them more likely to RSVP for the next event to save the embarrassment of the host having to call them.
laura_belle:I wouldn't call. If it isn't a plated lunch, you don't need an exact headcount. I would be turned off if someone called. Sure, it is rude to not RSVP 'no' but calling is akin to hounding you to come.
I disagree. You can be offended, but I think a polite phone call checking if you got the invite and then asking if you were planning to come is not hounding someone. If I forgot to RSVP, I'd appreciate the reminder.