So on Sunday evenings DH and SS11 get to do one of their weekly webcam chats. BM sits with SS11 while doing these every Sunday & Wednesday. So, Friday was DH's birthday and BM whispers in to SS11's ear to ask his father what he got for his birthday. So DH tells him a new pair of tennis shoes. SS11 then asks if I made him a cake and DH says no. BM then says "if you want I can make you your apple pie and send it up next weekend". BM and SS11 both think this is hilariously funny and DH says thats ok, I'm good. I'm so irritated. Apparently she used to make DH an apple pie every year (his favorite) for his birthday.
Im upset that I'm still being made out as a joke in front of SS11. And I'm even more upset that I let myself get upset STILL by comments like these. I know she's just being immature but its hard to always be the bigger person. I swear if she sends an apple pie up with SS11 next weekend I am going to personally call and thank her and tell her that it is exactly what I needed at 36 weeks pregnant. Why do I still let her make me feel like crap for not baking my husband a birthday cake or making him a pie? I know he doesnt care and is exercising and watching what he eats right now but its not the point. I still let myself feel like a bad wife and I hate that she has that ability to do that to me still.