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NBR poll: Did you keep your madien name?

I was having a discussion about this yesterday with a friend who DID keep hers. She claimed it never crossed her mind to take her husband's name.

However, it never crossed my mind NOT to take it. I am very proud of being a Hamilton for 25 years, which is why DS has it as one of his middle names, but I always planned on taking my husband's name.

What about you ladies? Did you take it or not? And what is your reason why/why not?

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Re: NBR poll: Did you keep your madien name?

  • I took my husbands last name. The thought to keep my maiden name never crossed my mind.
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  • I did (I thought he had a good one) but not at the expense of my middle name - which my family is attached to.

    So now I get to be LBPS :)

    *Edit* After reading other responses, I didn't realize it was popular to drop the maiden name all together. I kept all four names, so I'm First Middle Maiden Married.

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  • I took his name for the same reason as you.  I grew up in a very traditional southern area, so keeping your maiden name is very rare.  My husband is from out West, and we noticed that in Seattle it does not seem to just be a given that you will change your name.  
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  • My maiden name is now my middle name.
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  • My maiden name is my middle name now, and DS's first name! 
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  • I took my DH's last name. What's even stranger is when a woman makes her H take HER last name.
  • For me, it was never a question.  I was taking H's last name. 

    I had no real connection to my maiden name.  My mom got remarried, so she didn't have the same last name anymore, my little sister has a different last name so that left me and my sister.  Plus, I'm on the outs with my dad, so dropping his last name was A-OK with me.  

     In addition, I want the same last name as my kids, and don't like the last name hyphenated deal. 

  • I was excited to take DH's name but left my maiden name on my official docs next to my middle name, just so I could see it :-) That and I became a really common name and thought that having it in there would make it harder to steal my identity :-)

    ETA: I am jealous of people who can use their names as LOs name. I had a coworker who had a baby with her BF (they're married now) but they made her name the middle and he has the coolest name ever. Jealous! 

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  • My maiden name is now my middle name and will hopefully be used in some fashion if we have a girl.  My taking his name was very important to DH and I always planned to take it.  We are traditional and southern and such.

     

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    For me, it was never a question.  I was taking H's last name. 

    I had no real connection to my maiden name.  My mom got remarried, so she didn't have the same last name anymore, my little sister has a different last name so that left me and my sister.  Plus, I'm on the outs with my dad, so dropping his last name was A-OK with me.  

     In addition, I want the same last name as my kids, and don't like the last name hyphenated deal. 

    This. I took my husband's name. It never crossed my mind either to not take it.

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    My maiden name is now my middle name.

    I grew up never knowing anyone who did that until I got my first real job. Women in my family just dropped their maiden name when they got married, so that was normal. I think it's a great alternative to losing the maiden name altogether. I didn't do it though, so I am First Name Middle Name Married Name.

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  • image Amber0808:
    I took my husbands last name. The thought to keep my maiden name never crossed my mind.

    This.

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  • I took DH's name, never occurred to me not to. My maiden name was fairly common so "becoming Irish" made it more unique. Although nobody could spell my first name correctly before and now I also have to spell my last name, but I am all right with that. Hyphenated is just too long. If we had had a son, he would have gotten my maiden name as his last name, but we had a girl so the last name dies with me (no boys, I only have sisters). Which is a bit unfortunate.
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  • I took DH's name.  I never considered keeping my maiden name.  The only "problem" now is that instead of having a last name at the beginning of the alphabet, it's now at the end which means we'll have to wait for EVERYTHING!  Stick out tongue
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  • image dangerkitty102:
    My maiden name is now my middle name.

    This.

    It's way too funky to ever be a child's first name, though, which makes me a little sad. 

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    I took DH's name.  I never considered keeping my maiden name.  The only "problem" now is that instead of having a last name at the beginning of the alphabet, it's now at the end which means we'll have to wait for EVERYTHING!  Stick out tongue

    Same here! 

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  • I kept my maiden name and never considered taking DH's name.  DD has DH's last name and my last name is her middle name.

    I have a very common first name so it's always been my last name that is more distinguishing.  I didn't want to give it up.  It's never been a big deal.

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  • We're not married yet, but I'll probably take my fiance's last name. I'm not the traditional type so I have considered keeping my own. However, I'd really like to have the same last name as my kids, so I'll likely take his.

    I personally think it's a lot more common to take your husbands last name, but I've heard lots of people here lately say otherwise. I guess times are changing!

  • We compromised and combined our last names and then we both changed it. No hyphen just smashed together. So all 3 of us have the same name AND both of our last names are accounted for. :) Plus it sounds cool, I think we're lucky it worked out like that.

     

  • I took my husbands last name and dropped my maiden name.  Perhaps I am strange but I was so excited to have the same last name as my husband.  I am not old fashioned at all but for some reason I feel strongly about taking the mans last name.  
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  • When SO and I get married I plan on using a hyphenated last name .
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  • I kept my maiden name and really don't have any intentions of changing it. Honestly, he has a very long obnoxious name and even more importantly I really don't want to be associated with most of his family. That might sound bad but I like having my separation from them which to me means keeping my maiden name.

    Though I haven't legally changed it, I go by both names. DD's daycare calls me Mrs. (dh) and everyone else does as well; I use them interchangeably all the time.

  • I took my husband's name, never thought of keeping my maiden name.

    reasons: tradition, not that close to my dad so didn't feel particularly attached to it, will use it for a boy's name if we have a son.

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  • I took my husbands last name.  Never crossed my mind not to.
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  • I took my husband's name upon marriage.  I think there's something beautiful about being called by my husband name, its a deep sense of belonging and unity to it.  You can totally belong together and be in unity even w/o out the name change obviously.  But I've always been rather into symbolism.  And no, I don't feel that I've lost one ounce of myself just because my husband and I belong to each other.
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  • I hyphenated my maiden and married names but I never use both unless I'm signing a legal document. 

    I was "older" when I got married- in my mid-30's.  I had established a career using my maiden name so I wanted to keep it for work.  It is also a safety thing for me to keep my maiden name at work and not have some people find out my married name because of the type of job I have.   However, I wanted to have the same name as my kids for traveling (on my passport), school, etc.  I didn't want there to be any confusion. 

    It hasn't been a problem - people at work know me by my maiden name and people in my social life call me by my married name.  I'm the only one who gets confused! 

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  • I still use my maiden name.  I was married in Quebec, where marriage is not a valid reason for changing your last name (because the divorce rate was so ridiculously high in the 1980s, and it was causing all kinds of problems for official record-keeping).  I'm glad I didn't in the end, I like it better with my first name than my husband's.

    My last name is Gabe's middle name.  If we have other children we plan to do that as a tradition.

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  • I kept my name. I think the tradition of taking the mans name is out dated and dumb. Our DD's legally have both our names, hyphenated. But we use my last name socially, for monograming, when they're in school etc because it is a better sounding name.
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  • It was a really hard decision - one that I will second guess for a while.  Ultimately, I wanted our family (kids) to all have the same last name.  And dh didn't want to break his father's heart and change his name.  I often wish dh and I had both chosen a new last name.

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  • I took DH's last name.  I had an extremely long and Polish last name.  My married name is so much shorter and easier. 
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