Does anybody else feel like a failure? I recently found out that I am not ovulating regularly. I am 31 and my husband and I are trying to have our first baby. I haven't been able to get pregnant and I'm on my first round of clomid. When I first found out two weeks ago, I felt like a failure, like I was broken. I talked to my husband and he is so supportive and willing to do anything to make this happen. I finally thought I was ok with it, so I started sharing. I have always been an open person, but my father in law tonight called me "eggless". I know he didn't mean it meanly, but it really bothered me. Now I feel like I'm a failure all over again and if I don't get pregnant soon, everyone will think I am. Any advice on how to cope with this?
The answer to your question is yes, I believe we all have or still do feel like a failure from time to time. But you have to remind yourself that its not your fault your body isn't working properly. It could be a hormone imbalance or any number of other things.
That was kind of mean what your FIL said. Just know that about 99% of people do not and will not know what to say or how to react when they find out you are having problems TTC. People just don't have a lot of common sense.
I'm glad you decided to open up here, you will find a lot of support. The ladies are great and know how to make you feel loved. Welcome! I hope your journey to motherhood is short.
New to 3T? Check out this website first: TroubleTTC
Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end --Semisonic
08/11/13: One fertilized late, we now have 11 embryos!
08/13/13: 5dt-- 2 blasts (Sheldon and Penny) 3AA and 3BB, none to freeze
8/23/13: BFFN... Sheldon and Penny didn't stick**
**8/29/13: Follow up... bad fragmentation issues. Changing protocol to Antagonist for round #2 coming soon! Also started on 81mg Aspirin after getting blood panel done and found out I have PAI-1**
**Oct 2013: After large cysts, finally starting IVF #2**
IVF w/ICSI #2 (Antagonist Protocol)
BCPs started back in Sept due to cysts
10/27/13: Start stims (225 IUs Gonal-F + 75 IUs Menopur)
11/03/13 - 11/05/13: Add Ganirelix to the mix
11/06/13: 3 follicles at 18mm-- Ready to trigger!
11/08/13: ER-- 17R, 13M, 8F
11/13/13: 5dt-- 2 blasts (Luke and Leia) 5AB and 4AB, 1 frostie
11/20/13- 11/23/13: light positives on FRERs and Wondofos
11/22/13: BFN per RE office (under HCG of 10)
11/27/13: CP ::sigh::
*12/03/13: Follow up...great response and quality this time, was given 50% chance of it working, just didn't stick. Great plan for 2014!
**Jan 2014: Last IVF of our SRP**
IVF w/ICSI, freeze all, then FET
12/27/13: Start BCPs
01/19/14: Stims (375 IUs Gonal-F + 75 IUs Menopur)
Congratulations Cutebride!! --TWINS!! Congratulations, Luvie, on your sweet boy! Congrats, Jess! So happy for you ladies! ~~Also best of luck to Kati, illinigal, and youngin!~~
Does anybody else feel like a failure? I recently found out that I am not ovulating regularly. I am 31 and my husband and I are trying to have our first baby. I haven't been able to get pregnant and I'm on my first round of clomid. When I first found out two weeks ago, I felt like a failure, like I was broken. I talked to my husband and he is so supportive and willing to do anything to make this happen. I finally thought I was ok with it, so I started sharing. I have always been an open person, but my father in law tonight called me "eggless". I know he didn't mean it meanly, but it really bothered me. Now I feel like I'm a failure all over again and if I don't get pregnant soon, everyone will think I am. Any advice on how to cope with this?
I am so, so sorry that you had to hear this. Even in jest it is completely heartbreaking.
The people who love and care for you would never consider you a failure because of your infertility. Infertility is a disease, just like any other.
Best of luck and I hope that you get your BFP soon!
"I prayed for this child and the Lord has granted what I asked of him." ~1 Samuel 1:27
"Whatever it takes, we walk together." ~Pittsburgh Penguins My IF-turned-baby blog
Does anybody else feel like a failure? I recently found out that I am not ovulating regularly. I am 31 and my husband and I are trying to have our first baby. I haven't been able to get pregnant and I'm on my first round of clomid. When I first found out two weeks ago, I felt like a failure, like I was broken. I talked to my husband and he is so supportive and willing to do anything to make this happen. I finally thought I was ok with it, so I started sharing. I have always been an open person, but my father in law tonight called me "eggless". I know he didn't mean it meanly, but it really bothered me. Now I feel like I'm a failure all over again and if I don't get pregnant soon, everyone will think I am. Any advice on how to cope with this?
I am so, so sorry that you had to hear this. Even in jest it is completely heartbreaking.
The people who love and care for you would never consider you a failure because of your infertility. Infertility is a disease, just like any other.
Best of luck and I hope that you get your BFP soon!
Ditto!
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Re: Failure
The answer to your question is yes, I believe we all have or still do feel like a failure from time to time. But you have to remind yourself that its not your fault your body isn't working properly. It could be a hormone imbalance or any number of other things.
That was kind of mean what your FIL said. Just know that about 99% of people do not and will not know what to say or how to react when they find out you are having problems TTC. People just don't have a lot of common sense.
I'm glad you decided to open up here, you will find a lot of support. The ladies are great and know how to make you feel loved. Welcome! I hope your journey to motherhood is short.
TroubleTTC
Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end --Semisonic
**TTC since 04/09, C/P 02/02/10; 4 weeks, 3 days**
**Dx: Anovulation, Hypothryroidism, Mild Endo, Pituitary Adenoma (prolactin issues), PAI-1, MFI **
**7/10: Clomid + TI= BFN**
**3/2/11: 1st RE appointment**
**DH= Morph= 2%, Motility= 30%**
**HSG= All clear!!**
**3/11: Femara + Pregnyl + TI= BFN**
**5/17/11: Laparoscopy / hysteroscopy = mild endo**
**7/11: Novarel + IUI #1= BFN (7mil, 75% motility, 2% morph)**
**8/11: Femara + Novarel + IUI #2= BFN (11mil, 35% motility, 1% morph)**
**11/11: Femara + Novarel + IUI #3= BFN (9mil, 2% morph)**
**Jan 2012: Follistim (75ius) + IUI #4= CANCELLED due to cyst -put on bcp**
**Feb 2012: Follistim (75ius) + Novarel + IUI #4.2= BFFN (2.5mil, 13% motility, 1% morph)**
**Mar 2012: Follistim (100ius) + IUI #5= CANCELLED due to 35mm & 14mm cysts**
**On med break indefinitely...IF Sucks!**
Congratulations Cutebride!! --TWINS!! Congratulations, Luvie, on your sweet boy! Congrats, Jess! So happy for you ladies!
~~Also best of luck to Kati, illinigal, and youngin!~~
2004- DX with PCOS
6/2011- Gonal-F + Ganirelix + Oviderl and Crinone= BFP
7/7/2011 Beta #1 119 Beta #2 563 Beta#3 4178
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I am so, so sorry that you had to hear this. Even in jest it is completely heartbreaking.
The people who love and care for you would never consider you a failure because of your infertility. Infertility is a disease, just like any other.
Best of luck and I hope that you get your BFP soon!
"I prayed for this child and the Lord has granted what I asked of him." ~1 Samuel 1:27
"Whatever it takes, we walk together." ~Pittsburgh Penguins
My IF-turned-baby blog
Ditto!