Pregnant after a Loss

Cannot stop my negative thinking

I wish I was not this negative all the time.  I keep thinking about all the worse things that could happen to me.  PgAL is too difficult.  Today I weighed myself and I lost weight. I was 125 last week and 121 today.  I thought that was wierd.  I know I am only 5wks, but I didn't think I would be loosing weight.  I am overanalyzing everything.  One days my boobs feel big and next they don't.  I think DH is probably getting annoyed by me.  He keeps telling me that I should try to be positive. 

just needed to vent. 

Re: Cannot stop my negative thinking

  • I know how you feel. :( It's so hard to be positive sometimes. (((hugs)))


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  • It's very hard to be PgAL...Being positive is not always easy - I think for me it is a daily challenge...I just always recite to myself - Today I am pregnant and I love my babies...
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  • I don't think it ever stops.  If it makes you feel any better I lost weight in my first trimester and I really wasn't all that sick.   It's normal.
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  • *hugs* Pgal is often anxiety filled.

    As for the weight, its not uncommon to lose in the first tri.

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  • I know how you feel, PgAL is so hard and full of anxiety. I battled my negative thinking day and night during my first tri, and now feel a bit better in second tri. I went to the library and got every positive thinking and self-help book I could find and read them at every free moment I could find. I also kept a little notebook journal and would write down passages or quotes that helped me to let go and trust the universe, trust the process, etc. I read either those books or my journal all the time, every single day until I stopped feeling so anxious. Not sure if that is something that would help you, but it helped me get through the days.
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  • I know how you feel.  Sometimes it's hard to be positive.  Venting it good.
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  • I totally know what you mean. Luckily I am really busy at work during this time of year so it keeps my mind occupied during the day. Good luck - hang in there!!
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  • I feel the same way!! And none of my friends, family or even DH can understand. I find different positive sayings/quotes/thoughts to sort of chant in my head over and over and take deep breaths when the negativity seems to be creeping up on me. Good luck and vent when you need to, especially here where we ALL know how you feel and probably feel the same way (at least sometimes)!
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  • We all go there from time to time. Just remember, "Today you are pregnant, and you love your baby."

    FWIW, I'm 5wks too and my symptoms are still pretty minimal and very inconsistant.  My weights gone down a little too, like an ounce, but still down. 

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  • A lot of people lose weight in the first tri!! Between eating healthier/cutting out caffeine/booze/nausea/etc, it happens!  Try not to worry too much - you'll MORE than make up for it later. :) It's a hard mindset to have, though....for sure.f
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  • It's definitely hard to stay positive. I am hoping that as we reach each milestone, things get easier. One day at a time is all we can do. ((hugs))
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  • I'm around the same weight as you and losing a little too. I think it's because our metabolism is just suuuuuper fast right. Eat whatever you want and enjoy it while you can!!!  I know it's hard not to worry. I'm right there with you too!
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  • I/we know exactly how you feel ((((hugs))))

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  • This is a difficult process and honestly i don't know how to get through each day either.  I know having symptoms and doubling beta's doesn't mean squat.  All i can do is pray and wish for a healthy LO. 
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  • Same here.

    I'm so scared that I'm doing things wrong and I'm super careful about every thing I do. I even try to creep cuz I'm afraid I'm going to take too hard of a step and lose it. It's so hard to keep positive like Cody tells me to. He didn't see me when I lost our first one (He had to go take care of his family for a few months) so he doesn't understand how devastated I was losing our other baby.

    Even though everything is better than last time, I'm still terrified of doing anything that would cause our baby harm. I hope you can think positively soon. I know I'm working on it.

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