I'd really like to ask the ladies on the loss board how I can best handle the following situation, but I don't want to accidently upset them during this difficult time.
I'm trying to figure out how to best reach out to a couple at our church. They lost their son after an emergency C-section at 32 weeks and I was about 18 weeks pregnant at the time. When I was still pregnant we were able to chat with them occasionally, but now it's just really uncomfortable for us. DH went to church a few weeks ago by himself and the husband was there by himself. He admitted to DH that his wife had miscarried early that week. Ever since then, they barely acknowledge DD & me when we're there and I realize how difficult it must be for them to see us each week. I really want to reach out and offer some support, but I just don't know how to best approach them. Is there anything that I can do or do I need to just try to fade into the background and give them time to grieve and let them approach me when they're ready?
Do any of you have any suggestions about the situation? For those of you that have had a loss previously, would it be alright to ask the loss board for some assistance in best supporting the other couple? Thanks for your help and I sincerely hope that I haven't hurt or offended anyone.