Yesterday we had our 20 week anatomy scan and while I didn't want to find out the gender, my husband did. So we had the tech tell him but not me. Well that drove me crazy and by late afternoon, I had him tell me. He said he told the tech he thought it was a girl and she said that he was right. Problem is he really really wanted a boy. I am happy with a girl, but I was also hoping for a boy too, mostly because I knew he really wanted one.
Now I feel guilty because I was a little sad it was a girl. Also, he seems really bummed about it. I know that when she arrives, he will change his mind and fall absolutely in love with her. But in the meantime I can't think of anything to say to him to make him feel better.
I don't have anyone I can talk to about this either because we promised that if we found out, we would keep the gender a secret from the rest of our family and just have it something between the two of us!
Any suggestions on how to handle this? Did your DH have the same feelings and how long did it take to get over?