my husband's not in the army... but his job has been sending him all over the place and we've only lived together about a total of 7 months in the 2 years we've been married. now we're thinking about having kids & i've had time to prepare myself for the decision to actually have them, but i never considered he might not be around for the whole process.
i've been stalling & hoping we'll find out if he's going to have work here for a while after his current assignment. he says we can't plan around his job and if we want to do it we should do it and worry about his job situation later. i can understand that (i'm almost 35 so don't want to wait around forever) but at the same time i'm really worried about whether i can handle pregnancy and a baby if he isn't here.
i'm about 4 hours away from my family and i have a few aunts/uncles 30-45 mins away but i don't really have anyone nearby to help on short notice. i'm not a military wife on a military base with other women in the same situation. so is it crazy to consider doing this?