so, the father of my child and i are not together, but we are sharing custody of the child. we have not gone through the courts or DSHS or anything. we just came to terms and agreements about visitation and child support on our own. he agreed to it at first. but now our baby is 9 weeks old, and all the sudden he wants his name on the Birth Certificate. i said no, *he was violent and verbally/mentally abusive in the past* and i dont want him to have legal ties to my daughter in case something in the future changes and i feel that he should not be allowed in her life. This sounds harsh, but he is SEVERELY bipolar and can become violent when he doesn't get his way.
should i let him take it to court for custody (if i do i know the state will not allow him visitation because of the restraining order we had prior to the parenting plan agreement.) or should i continue to talk him out of it so that he can see his baby according to our plan?