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-Spend time with all your friends before you have the baby - because most seem to have disappeared...
-The first few weeks of motherhood are hard, and they do get easier, but give yourself a break!
-The nauseousness will eventually go away...only to be replaced by heartburn from hell. But it all goes away when you have that beautiful baby.
-Mom was right WAY more than you want to admit
The reflux is going to get worse. Save yourself the trouble and go ahead and take the Prilosec.
You are only going to get more busy and more tired. Try to get those billable hours up early in the year.
Breastfeeding is going to work despite the previous breast reduction surgery. Be excited that you can produce at all instead of beating yourself up for having to supplement.
The fierceness of the love you will have for your child will take your breath away. It is so much more amazing than your wildest dreams. And watching DH become a dad is pretty awesome too.
-This year will be the most amazing and hardest year of your life! But will be totally worth it.
-In your 2nd house (the one we are trying to sell), the pipes will burst because of a boiler malfunction and freezing in March and cause you months worth of work and aggravation. It will NOT be completed in 2010 so don't stress yourself out. Insurance companies suck. The entire house will need to be gutted down to subflooring and you will wish it just burned down. It should get better, but you will not see that in 2010... maybe 2011?
-Your pregnancy will bring about Grave's Disease which mean monthly blood tests and more medication than you could ever imagine! You will feel so tired and will be sick of being poked by the end of the pregnancy. It means constant worrying about the baby's size and liver functions, more ultrasounds and a high-risk pregnancy. Breastfeeding is out of the question now, but it is all worth it for a healthy baby. You had a 50/50 chance of not having this disease anymore after Grace, but your body decided it liked Grave's Disease. You will now be on medication for the rest of your life with monthly blood tests until you are done having kids, then yearly after that.
-Your husband will turn from a scared-to-be-around-babies kind of guy to the most amazing daddy in the world. He will be calmer than you in some situations and you never thought that would happen. You will see a side of him you never knew was there.
-Grace will be the most amazing baby ever, so happy and loving, it's unbelievable. You will never know what it feels like to love your child until the first time they smile at you for real!
-Postpartum sucks! But it does pass!! Your body will never be the same.
-Family and friend will disappear and the only one to stick by you will be your mom and brothers. You will receive no help at all when the baby comes and you will not get any special treatment. You will be expected to be your old self immediately. No one will make a fuss over Grace, nor will they buy her many Christmas present. You are on your own as a little family, but it will make you stronger! Cherish your family, it's the best and greatest thing you have!
You will be pregnant for 42 weeks. Get used to it.
You will be lonely in your new hometown, but it will get better.
Going from 2 to 3 kids IS way harder than 0 to 1 or 1 to 2 so get ready to pray hard for patience and work to get a balance on everything.
That Cailin will turn into a little spit-fire of energy that doesn't stop. She's a huge blessing but will also test you to your limits - embrace her for her good qualities so you can overlook the trying times!!
- You shouldn't stress about your pregnancy, everything turns out fine.
- Don't redo your kitchen AND bathroom. Bathroom needed it because the plumbing was about to explode, but the kitchen can wait. You're broke dear.
- Don't buy baby clothes. Ever.
This is so fun! It reminds me of that "Reflections of Motherhood" video. Here's mine:-The morning sickness will stop after the first trimester.-It's a girl. Your H will have a hard time with this, but will be thrilled when he sees her.-Spend time with your friends now. It gets much harder to make time later.-You'll be pregnant for 41 weeks. -Keep exercising and taking care of yourself. You'll need to be strong for labor.-You'll be in labor for 48 hours. With prayer and DH, you'll get through it. Have faith that it will all turn out alright.-The first couple of weeks are hard. Accept help from others.-Things you should buy now: Swaddleme blankets, a good sling, and a rock and play. The pack and play sucks, and DD will hate it.-She will get sick at 6 weeks, but it will be okay.-Breastfeeding sucks at first. After you think everything is getting better, you will be in pain for 8 weeks. It's a milk blister. Have your doc open it with a needle, and you'll feel much better. Taking Lecithin seems to help your clogged ducts - take it early.-Returning to work is the hardest thing you'll ever have to do, but it does get easier.-Take it easy on your DH. He's doing his best.I think that I'm going to post this over on the August 2011 board. I would have loved a post like this a year ago!
-You will eventually contemplate murdering your OB when he says "You'll likely be here until 40+ weeks"
-You WILL not be there until 40 weeks. Speaking of you do get that dramatic water break you wanted
-Your gut feeling of a c-section come true. Don't blame yourself she was trying to come before your body was ready
-your gut feeling to keep the formula will be correct. It is not your fault, no one blames you.
-It will hurt like hell after your c-section, but not where you think it will
-She will be amazing
-She will get pink eye in the first week, You are not a failure and did not cause it.
-She will grow so fast, take every opportunity to take pictures, five months later she will look so teeny tiny
-Buy clothes in the larger size. She will be 5 months and in size 12 months
-He won't come early don't stress, he actually will come on his due date
-The doctors can be wrong, he's not a huge baby- so go ahead and get the newborn clothes and long sleeve 0-3
-The PnP was a waste of money, he hates the ergo- so go ahead and get the sling!
-Ask for help with breastfeeding right away, make the nurses help you! Waiting until the last day for a good latch causes cracks and bleeding that take 2 months to heal, BUT it was so worth sticking with it through the pain and the tears
-Just get used to unwanted advice, smile and do what you know is right in your gut anyway
-Write down the big moments right away. They are great, wonderful and you'll never forget them (but like PP said you're busy and you most def WILL)
-make sure you spend a lot of time practicing with the dogs, even if you feel like a fool walking an empty stroller- it was so worth it; they will be best friends
- Don't stress over the nursery getting done, he hates sleeping on his back and won't really use the nursery at all this year
-Oh and you will LOVE cloth diapers, get fitted and wool early b/c he sleeps through the night the first time that you have the awesome combo, used diapers are fabulous!, gdiapers suck don't waste the money, and he's allergic to unbleached prefolds- spend the money and get green mountain prefolds
-Enjoy it, it all goes by SO fast!
- While you were terrified about everything, you lucked out this time around. No morning sickness to speak of, unlike the hyperemesis on the first go-round, and your DS will readily accept your DD into the family. She fits like a missing piece = PERFECTLY
- NOTHING goes as planned, you should have discovered this when you had DS. Harbor no delusions that you will choose the right bottles, pacifiers, even clothing.
- While your pregnany goes perfectly, you WILL have some labor issues at the end. Instead of delivering full-term, your Dr. will call you to reschedule your c-section EARLY. This is NOT your fault, and even though DD will be born prematurely she will have no NICU stay.
- Be prepared, no NICU stay does NOT mean that you will get out of buying preemie clothes! She'll stay in them for a couple weeks at least, not to mention the preemie diapers that you have to buy.
- Don't think you know everything! What worked for your DS will NOT work for your DD. She will wear the ::gasp:: Pampers with DryMax.... and they won't hurt her!
- Don't assume that the LC knows everything (again, you should have discovered this with DS!). If you wait too long, DD won't take a pacifier or bottle AT ALL... Trust us on this, any reservations you have about needing bottles will NOT come to pass. Your DD loves the boob, nothing else will do, so just deal with it.
- On that note, you and your DH will both harbor some guilt over the tubal ligation procedure you had done. Don't regret this, it WAS the right decision. And don't guilt your DH too much about pressuring you to have it done. Like your Dr. said at the time, you will grieve your fertility, but other options will exist if you truly feel you made the wrong decision.
- Exchange all those clothes for diapers. She walks around in a onesie most of the time anyway.
- The best idea you ever had was to accept all those clothes. But accept the help that was offered too, there was no need for you to be superwoman.
- You will NOT get PPD like you think you will. Stop obsessing over it.
- She will be hospitalized. It will require that you get strength from places that you didn't even think you could get strength from. You manage to do it and you fully understand what it's like to have your heart outside of your body.
- Your DH is the best father he can be. But don't expect him to read your mind. He needs to be told exactly what to do, to the T. It is not his fault, and it does not make him a bad father. It just means that he's a man.
- BUY MORE DERMAPLAST!! Also rent a pump from the hospital instead of buying one. It would've been cheaper and way more effective then the pump you had.
- Do NOT feel guilty for having to go over to formula. Stay off the blogs that are all "ZOMG! YOU DIDN'T BF! YOUR CHILD WILL HAVE 4 HEADS!" they will make you feel like shiit.
- You may not have friends IRL that have kids, but you have friends on this board that will help you get through the roughest parts.
Geez, thanks for making me cry, ladies!
Here are mine:
1. Stop worrying about your pregnancy. Being pregnant will be the easy part.
2. Don't make fun of the people with kids who tell you to enjoy your sleep over and over again. There's a reason they are fixated on this.
3. Go ahead and plan for a natural childbirth, enjoy the books, the classes, and bonding with other like minded women. But don't hire the doula. You will have a c-section. Sorry, they will force you into it. Stand up for yourself anyway. The doctor will be a beyatch, the nurses will forget to bring pain meds, in fact you won't be seen by a doctor during your entire hospital stay so insist that someone get you a prescription for pain meds before you leave because you'll need them no matter what the nurse says. Once you get home it gets better.
4. Breastfeeding will hurt...a lot. LO will just be a hungry monster. Supplement early to give yourself a break when you need it so you can BF as long as possible.
5. There are no words for how much you will love that kid. He's your angel baby.
-It's another boy!! I know you wanted your first girl, but 3 boys are awesome
-You will have several uti's and kidney infections drink lots of water
-buying those diapers ahead of time was great, wished you would have purchased more newborn sizes though since once again you had a small baby
- your feet will swell worse than what they were while you were pregnant for the first 5 weeks after he was born. keep them up and drink tons of water
-stock pile more dinners in the freezer
-don't worry about the epidural this time around since there was no pain this time around and the c-section went great
-take more time to heal for yourself.
-buy a sophie around 2 months old and get the bumbo chair earlier on.
Ooh! I like this post!
1. DO NOT BUY THE EXPENSIVE CRIB! DS will HATE it and never sleep in it. Ever. Instead, buy a nice king size bed for you and DH.
2. Just give into the bedsharing. It works SO well for you and DS! Nursing while lying down half-asleep will save you hours of sleep and fussing! And, yes, you can do it safely.
3. Supplementing with formula really was ok. Actually, it saved your sanity there for a while. Plus, DH really enjoys being able to fulfill DS's needs that way.
4. The swing was the best pre-baby purchase. Again, that swing is the only thing that will give you alone time to shower and eat during the first 2 months.
5. Having a c-section will be OK. The baby will be breech. Stick with your gut about not attempting a version to turn him. His umbilical cord is short and around his neck. Even though you dont get a vaginal birth, you will still have a great birth experience. It's still the most incredible, overwhelming, cathartic moment of your life.
6. Oh, yeah, go ahead and rent the at-home doppler machine. It REALLY helped give you peace of mind and helped you always feel close to baby.
7. You will never believe that I am saying this, but... you really will love DS as much as DH. Can you believe that's possible? Well, it is. He will be the most incredible little man that you have ever seen.
I love this post....
1. Keep all your parenting ideas to yourself. Others will tell you what worked/did not work for them. Just smile and nod. You never know what will work for you
2. You will do things you swore you never would. Like bed-share for the first 3 months. Read up on all the different things so you know how to do it safely ahead of time, even if you swear now that the baby will be in the crib from day 1
3. You will be tested for Gestational Diabetes early because you're at risk due to age (30). You will be diagnosed with GD at 12 weeks. It's not the end of the world. In fact you'll be one of the few women to weigh less the moment of delivery than you did the day you got pregnant.
4. You will need a c/s because the baby will not drop and your body is not ready to deliver by your EDD, and with GD you can't go past it. This is also not the end of the world. No it's not the natural non-medicated birth you wanted. But it's best for the baby and you still have a great birth experience
5. When May comes and you start to buy summer clothes, buy a size bigger than you were pre-pregnancy because even though you're carrying a girl and losing weight (see 3) you carry way way way out in front and nothing will fit by mid-july
-Don't worry soooo much about your pregnancy. Lots of things went wrong, yes, but you will have a perfectly healthy baby.
- don't hesitate to get help with your depression. if you need meds, you need meds.
- do not buy any baby clothes. do buy the small necessities and thebigger stuff instead. everyone you know will inundate you with clothes. you will need to take care of the diaper rash cream, bottles,car seats and the crib.
-do not feel bad or second guess your decision to formula feed. bfing would have put way too much stress on you pp, which you already had enough of. and your dd will thrive.
-do not stock up on newborn size anything. your daughter will be over 10 lbs at birh.
-even with preeclampsia and a bazillion other problems you will be pregnant for 42 weeks. in the hottest summer in years.
- you will have a csection, but due to the fact that you are a "surgery veteran", this will be a walk in the park. you will wonder why anyone would go through natural childbirth when your section was so easy.
your baby will be your all, your everything. you wont know how you lived without her and the love you have for her will amaze you everyday.
- Totally don't stress over the blood pressure issues. Although you won't develope pre-e, they'll still treat you like you do. Just give in to the process.
- Take advantage of all the u/s you get b/c of the bp issues - don't worry about her being underweight, she'll be TOTALLY fine and will weigh over 8# at birth.
- BFing is hard, but not for the reasons you think. Try to get her on the boob as soon as possible, and don't put off pumping. Do everything you can to get your supply set at the beginning, because otherwise you're going to have supply issues.
- Don't stress tons over BFing anyway... a few months in, whether it be totally by natural reasons or triggered by family drama (oh, there will be MAJOR family drama in September), you will realize you have PPD. The meds they put you on aren't safe for BFing (they say that there aren't any that are), so you'll have to stop. And it will be hard, and you will feel sad about it for a long time, but she's totally fine - growing and healthy.
- Cute clothes will always be available for purchase. She grows so quickly (she'll probably be in size 9month clothes by 5 months) that she won't be able to wear all the outfits anyway!
-Babies require VERY little in the first few months. You do NOT need the swing, bouncy seat, etc. She won't let you put her down during the day anyway! But DO buy the playmat with the musical mobile and lights. That thing will save your sanity once she starts playing on it!
-Listen to (and ask for!) advice from your friends with very well behaved young children (particularly the ones with twins - they went through it times 2!). Put her on the 3 hour schedule early and stick to it. It works and it will help your supply!
-You won't get the delivery you want...you won't even get to hold your baby for the first 2 1/2 days of her life but don't worry! You will both be healthy and happy at the end of that 5 day hospital stay and your home will seem like the Taj Mahal (which is important when you're shut in there for the next 3 months!). Thanks the nurses and doctors often and offer them the food people bring you - make them like you and they'll take extra great care of you!
-Ignore most of the "magic" things people talk about on the bump. You don't need a seahorse, sound machine or fancy swaddle blankets. You've already got everything you need and she won't care about that other stuff anyway! Save your money!
-MAKE EVERYONE THAT COMES IN CONTACT WITH HER WASH THEIR HANDS FIRST! And while you're at it, just don't let anyone you don't know (VERY WELL) hold her at all. Babies with colds are the most pitiful things ever and you can't do anything to help her! But she will get better. It's not the end of the world.
-Don't be so scared! It is a terrifying experience becoming a mom and suddenly being in charge of another life. There will be days where you feel like you are just doing well to keep her alive another day, but trust your instincts! You know how to take care of your baby better than anyone else! (And don't let mom spend that first night with you - she'll only undermine what you know.) Keep doing your best and you will be rewarded with the most beautiful smiles and more joy than you could ever imagine!