I love my MIL, but ever since we told her I was expecting she has tried to control everything. At first she wanted full right to the babies name and wouldn't agree with any of [even insulted] my choices. My DH and I were kind enough to compromise and let her pick a list middle names for us to choose from. While at the same time my family does not know that we're letting anyone give any say towards the names and they are not aloud to suggest or pick names for us. We don't know the gender so we had to choose a boy name and a girl name. Once we had the first names she was back at the efferts to change the name. We had to change the first girl name we picked (Avari pronounced uh-V-ar-ee) because she persuaded DH that it was too close to his cousin's son's name (Avery). I do understand the names are close, but is the family relation close enough to have to change the name? But we got along fine and decided on Aolani instead. As soon as the girl name drama was over MIL had to nitpick at the boy name. Jaxith is the proper spelling of the name, but she thinks it would be better with an "e" at the end. I am just going to ignor her request because it is my child and though I'm not really found of Elijah, I agreed to it as the middle name for the boy.
Now that I'm nearing the third trimester, I think she's trying to stress the baby out of me by constantly suggesting that, once I start the Fall semester next year, the baby should live with her until DH and I finish college. She lives in the Mid West, we live on the East coast... and she suggest I give my baby to her for the next 3 years. I think my MIL really wants to have a newborn of her own. I suppose this could be because she herself was a young mother and DH and I are going to be young parents so she is still young enough to feel like she's the mother of the baby. But my parents were young parents and aren't trying to be overbearing like my MIL. Even my step mother who could not have children of her own is no where near being overbearing, she's just overjoyed with becoming a grandmother and buys me maternity clothes and Eeyore themed gender nuetral stuff for the baby. Granted I live with my father and step mother, and my mother is still caring for a 13 year old boy, 11 year old girl and a 5 year old girl in PA(5 hours away from my house).
I'm still kinda shy around my MIL but I need to let her know she's gotta back off. She's very strong willed and can be agressive if she thinks she's right so I need to find a way to tell her off without damaging our relationship aswell.