My MIL's bestfriend which I don't really have a close relationship with, though she's a nice lady, she was the first one to offer to throw me a baby shower, extremely early in my pregnancy, before I even told my friends, she found out through my excited MIL. I found it awkward, but hard to say no to such a nice gesture, but I didn't feel comfortable so I express my concerns about someone that doesn't really know my taste well throwing the shower for me to couple of my close friends. After I mentioned that, they offered to do it instead of my MIL's friend but I have a lot of guests and because of that the shower only can be done at a restaurant, which is pricey, I'm feeling like I imposed to them by expressing my no satisfaction about the topic.
Also the first of my
friends that offered, and was organizing most of the things, suddenly
told me she wasn't planning to pay for it just organize, because she
can't afford the type of party I want, leaving my other friends with all
the work. I offered them my financial help because I want a nice
shower, it is my first baby, and I always plan really nice, well
organized parties, so it is difficult not to try to give my input when I
see them kind of lost, but I don't believe in organizing your own
shower. All this disorganization around my shower is making me a little
bit sad, am I over thinking this? How should I handle it?