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If you get a BFP before Christmas....

Would you tell your family for Christmas? I know If I would have gotten one last month then yes I would tell them at Christmas. If I get a bfp this month i will only be like 4 weeks so not sure what I would do, even though I am leaning towards no.

Just curious who would tell at Christmas...

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  • No way. We would not tell anyone until at least 12 weeks.
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  • No :( DH doesn't want to tell anyone until the first Tri is over...
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  • As much fun as it would be to tell everyone at Christmas, I don't want to. We will be waiting until 12 weeks to tell anyone.
  • A BFP before Christmas is a long shot for me since I believe FF is way off and I haven't even O'ed yet, but..... if I did get one, I would definitely tell my BF and my parents.  DH and I have already agreed that his family will not be the first to know because they have a serious problem keeping a secret.  Besides them, we would wait to tell everyone else.

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  • I would tell my Mother for sure, and my DH's parents and brother (and his GF) since we are going to Jamaica for New Years and they would know something was up because I wouldn't be drinking. We live far from them so it would also be great to tell them in person.
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  • Well, I'm not going to get a BFP before Christmas but IF I did, we would be traveling to visit family just days later. So that would be like 4 weeks or something. I wouldn't feel comfortable telling anyone, but my mom would know when she saw that I wasn't drinking. So, I would probably tell her and my dad, but everyone else would have to wait until after 1st tri.
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  • Yes, I would have.  ::Sigh::  I wouldn't have been able to contain myself.
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  • I've been wanting to ask this same question!  No we will not be telling our families.  A few years ago I had some horrible heavy bleeding.  Went to the hospital and found out I was pregnant and miscarrying(apparently you can get pregnant while on birth control and using condoms).  This along with the knowledge that I have a short LP we will be waiting and sending out special valentines cards!
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  • No, we would not tell family.  I want to wait until after my first dr appt to tell family and after first tri to tell everyone else


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  • We would definitely tell the immediate family, and our 2 best friends right after Christmas. Everyone else would have to wait until 12 weeks or so.
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  • Nope, we would wait until Valentine's instead and send them a card :-D
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  • This is a tough one...I won't be so I don't know for sure, but DH will have a hard time keeping it quiet to anyone so we probably would have told our families at Christmas. Ideally I would want to wait until first tri is over, but I know DH and his big mouth so it will be interesting when we do get our BFP. But yes we more than likely would have simply because my mom knows we are TTC and asks me all the time when AF is due and when I can POAS and such, so she would have known without us telling her and DH would not be able to keep quiet since he blabs to everyone that we are TTC.
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  • image bjbrock:
    As much fun as it would be to tell everyone at Christmas, I don't want to. We will be waiting until 12 weeks to tell anyone.

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  • Well I know I'm out since DH and I can't BD until the 2nd week of January....but if I was I would still wait to tell people.
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  • I would only tell a couple people who know that were TTC because I'm a terrible liar and they always ask me lol. But I'm not going to know by christmas. :(

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  • I would probably be too excited and end up telling my parents. Although, I would prefer to wait until the end of 1st trimester, but we'll see!

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  • I will tell close family. I've never experienced a loss so I may regret it but for me, I think I would rather my family know if I have a m/c. I think I would need their support during a time like that. That's why if I get a BFP this week, I will be buying a "tis the season to be pregnant" shirt to break the news to the family over the holidays.
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  • I believe I would tell my close family (parents, brother/his gf, grandpa, aunt, and uncle) at Christmas if I got a bfp (which pretty much definitely is not happening because I'm not even away from AF yet).

    My aunt and mother have both suffered pregnancy losses so if something bad WERE to happen after telling them, I feel like I would really want their support.
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  • No, no matter when we get get the bfp, we would not tell anyone until out of the 1st tri.

    Now that being said, I have been thinking of telling my mother if we do get one at Christmas.  The reason is she lives in Ireland & is kind of planning on coming here for a vacation in February.  If I am KU I would like her to come instead for when the baby is born as I know she cannot afford to do two big trips in one year.

    What worries me about that, however, is the woman has a mouth like a fog horn & is quite unable to keep a secret.  It would be all over Facebook within seconds! 

  • Hell to the no.
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  • Well, I'm torn. I would love to, but at the same time I want to wait. I think this would be something we play by ear. DH wants to tell people right away, but I'd be a little nervous and would like to wait until about 10 - 12 weeks. We will see what happens.
  • my immediate family, sure. With DS we told our parents/siblings/grandparents as soon as we found out (I was about 2 months along at the time) and they all kept it a secret (even H's then-6 year old sister) until I was 14 weeks.

     

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  • Nope. After recently going through a miscarriage and having to "untell" everyone, I think we'll wait until we are in the clear on a future pregnancy. Although it was nice to have my mom to talk to, etc.. it was to painful to have to tell everyone we had lost the pregnancy.
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  • I don't think so. If I told anyone it would be my mother... but then how could she hold out and not tell anyone else? I think I would leave it up to my DH. I'm loving the idea of letting them know on V-day... Though I don't know if I would WANT to go through my first trimester without having my mom to commiserate with!
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    I will tell close family. I've never experienced a loss so I may regret it but for me, I think I would rather my family know if I have a m/c. I think I would need their support during a time like that. That's why if I get a BFP this week, I will be buying a "tis the season to be pregnant" shirt to break the news to the family over the holidays.

    We're TTA for a few more cycles so I won't be getting a BFP for Christmas :(  but I agree with jiffy-pop.  Our loss was absolutely devastating, but I am so grateful that our families knew what was happening and were able to support and comfort us.  I didn't actually have to "un-tell" anyone, because my mother and sister made those phone calls for me.  And it was nice to not have to pretend everything was fine, when I just wanted to cry.  If/when we are blessed again, we will absolutely tell our families (close family, not extended) and closest friends.

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  • image bjbrock:
    As much fun as it would be to tell everyone at Christmas, I don't want to. We will be waiting until 12 weeks to tell anyone.

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  • I think I would tell my mom, but nobody else.  Then I'd have to think up a good excuse for not drinking wine (b/c that's what my family does at Christmas and it would be pretty obvious if I wasn't drinking)
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  • we arent telling anyone until we are 12 weeks along...so no definetly not
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  • image buttercupaug06:
    We would definitely tell the immediate family, and our 2 best friends right after Christmas. Everyone else would have to wait until 12 weeks or so.

     This. Our immediate family and our close friends who have been praying for us on this TTC will know. We will announce to everyone else around 12 weeks.

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