3rd Trimester

NBR: December birthdays suck!

And if you have a birthday this month, happy birthday from me! If you have a birthday this month, can you put your day down here so we can tell you happy birthday then?

Mine/Fergie+1: Dec. 11th

Mrs. B: Today! HAPPY BIRTHDAY, I hope you at least get a cake and a card!!

IzzlesMom: Dec. 19th

Tcarrol: Dec. 7th

Catste: Dec. 20th

 

If you have a birthday this month, I do want to know so I can wish you a happy birthday on your day. If you're anything like me, it may be the only 'happy birthday' you get and it's nice to hear it from someone.

Edited: To add a few more birthdays to my list.

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  • Mine is tomorrow but way more importantly DD's 1st birthday is Saturday!!! Party!!!
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  • Mine was the 4th. I got/did nothing. Yayyyyyy.
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  • Happy birthday! 

    I certainly hope that my child doesn't think that December bdays suck since he may very well have one--as will many other of the babies on this board, LOL. Is there something that your parents or friends did or didn't do growing up or even now that made a Dec bday tough? We want to make sure that our LO always sees his birthday as the celebration-worthy miracle that we do after a hard time getting and staying PG.

  • Kind of a mean post, don't you think?? Quite a lot of us are having December babies. And my DS1 was born Jan 2nd, so a week after Xmas. Guess I suck at timing...
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    Kind of a mean post, don't you think?? Quite a lot of us are having December babies. And my DS1 was born Jan 2nd, so a week after Xmas. Guess I suck at timing...

    Yeah, all in all kind of a douche-y thing to say.  

    I'm a "Holiday" birthday and have never-ever minded at all.  My due-date was yesterday so I guess my LO will have "sucky" birthday for his entire life too.  What was I thinking?!?

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  • I guess I'm a horrible mom for getting pregnant in the beginning of April then, because this is going to be a December 22 baby.
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  • mine's December 24th.... yea Sad

    happy birthday everyone else!! 

    ETA: I don't think she meant this post as a "wow you guys suck for having your LOs in Dec." post, more of a comradeship for people who have December b-days and who have gone most of their lives getting "combination presents" and "oh, hey, it's your b-day!" comments at 11PM on their special days.

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    Happy birthday! 

    I certainly hope that my child doesn't think that December bdays suck since he may very well have one--as will many other of the babies on this board, LOL. Is there something that your parents or friends did or didn't do growing up or even now that made a Dec bday tough? We want to make sure that our LO always sees his birthday as the celebration-worthy miracle that we do after a hard time getting and staying PG.

    Don't give them Birthday/Christmas presents.  If I ever wanted something slightly big growiing up, it had to be both my birthday/Christmas present.  Funny my sister had a summer birthday, still got big presents but she didn't have to have birthday/christmas presents. 

    So if they ever ask for something kinda big and you are tempted to  tell them it will have to be both their birthday/christmas present, ask yourself this.  If they were born in the summer would I tell them to same thing ?

  • DH is 12/28 & DS is arriving on 12/24.  Yes I planned for a Christmas Eve delivery - you can all tell me what an awful mother I am at another time.

    December babies do get the short end of the stick (ask hubby - 12/28).....so I figured we'd go big and just have the 2nd c-section on the 24th.  Keeps our theme going though.  DS was born on Valentine's Day....I have a Halloween Birthday.....now my daughter will be Christmas Eve. 

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    Happy birthday! 

    I certainly hope that my child doesn't think that December bdays suck since he may very well have one--as will many other of the babies on this board, LOL. Is there something that your parents or friends did or didn't do growing up or even now that made a Dec bday tough? We want to make sure that our LO always sees his birthday as the celebration-worthy miracle that we do after a hard time getting and staying PG.

    Don't give them Birthday/Christmas presents.  If I ever wanted something slightly big growiing up, it had to be both my birthday/Christmas present.  Funny my sister had a summer birthday, still got big presents but she didn't have to have birthday/christmas presents. 

    So if they ever ask for something kinda big and you are tempted to  tell them it will have to be both their birthday/christmas present, ask yourself this.  If they were born in the summer would I tell them to same thing ?

    ::shrugs:: My birthday is in April and I always got combined gifts if I wanted something large. I would get less at xmas than my brother and then the big gift in April.

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    mine's December 24th.... yea Sad

    happy birthday everyone else!! 

    ETA: I don't think she meant this post as a "wow you guys suck for having your LOs in Dec." post, more of a comradeship for people who have December b-days and who have gone most of their lives getting "combination presents" and "oh, hey, it's your b-day!" comments at 11PM on their special days.

    She didn't mean this in a mean way at all! She was simply trying to explain that us December babies are often forgotten about due to the holidays or our gifts are lumped with Christmas!

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  • Not gonna lie here, I hate having a "Christmas baby" dd1 is 12/22 and it's only her 2nd birthday party this year and it's already such a hassle (not for me, but for other people). I'm considering celebrating her birthday in November instead....
  • Anyone who thinks I'm a douchebag for writing this has never had a Dec. birthday in thier family I guess.

    Decembers birthdays get over looked big time. Every person around them is so busy with Christmas buying that you'll never really get a good birthday gift/party. (I also got birthday/Christmas gifts even though there's 2 wks between them.) Birthdays in May or March never get overlooked because there's no craziness with holiday parties and such going on. 

    For any mom who's having a Dec. baby, just make sure you always save money to give them some sort of party or gift that is unrelated to Christmas. No red and green socks, no candy canes, no Santa bears, etc. It's not okay to do it in June, it's not okay in December. Christmas themes are inescapable this time of year, but never overlook your child's birthday just because it's near a major holiday. If you notice, all the women who responded who had/will have a birthday this month didn't say anything negative. Why? They understand. You can't help if your due date is this month, but you CAN try to save money aside in the future so that you're not so broke by your kid's birthday that you give them a crappy birthday. Even as adults we have to live with this. I never get to have birthday parties with friends because this time of year, everyone's weekends are full and they would rather be caroling/visiting family/volunteering somewhere/out of town celebrations.

    I did not intend to be a d-bag, and even though the title is rude it's pretty accurate. I just wanted to wish all the December birthday's a happy birthday in case there's no one else who remembers to say it to them. I don't think that's douchey. I think it's nice. 

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  • I admit, I wouldn't have choosen to have a December baby.  Since I am, I plan on celebrating his/her "half birthday" in June so we can have a nice party and take advantage of the good weather.


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  • image Erin0922:
    Mine was the 4th. I got/did nothing. Yayyyyyy.

    I'm sorry!! Sad Happy Belated Birthday from me, I hope there was something to make it a good day. Or maybe you'll get a birthday dinner this weekend.

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  • I really don't think this was meant to be offensive.....I think she was just trying to show support for those of us who have December birthdays.  DH & I tried for several months before getting our BFP and if we had ended up with a December due date that wouldn't have made us "sucky parents" but having a december birthday myself I would have definitely made sure to never brush over or forget their birthday.
  • Mine is the 13th and baby's is sometime this week (induced or not!)  I've always had a great birthday and now it's about to be even better!  Smile
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  • While not a December birthday, mine is Jan 1 so quite close.  I just had to weigh in and say not everyone hates having a bday so close to Christmas.  I don't mind it at all but then again, I don't need everyone and their dog to wish me a happy birthday in order to feel validated:)

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    Mine is the 13th and baby's is sometime this week (induced or not!)  I've always had a great birthday and now it's about to be even better!  Smile

    Wow, you are extremely fortunate! Almost every Dec. birthday I've encountered has had a history of not-so-great birthdays, as you can tell from the Dec. birthdays who responded here. It's really hard to be overlooked on your birthday. I mean, it's the day to celebrate your life, and when pretty much everyone can't make time for you or forgot to send you a card, it hurt all the more, like your life just wasn't worth saving a couple bucks for. 

    For any mom due in Dec., I'm not digging at you. You either wanted a Dec. baby or didn't have a choice in the matter. I'm referring to the women on the board who have Dec. birthdays and barely even get a Happy Birthday from anyone. 

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    Mine is the 13th and baby's is sometime this week (induced or not!)  I've always had a great birthday and now it's about to be even better!  Smile

    Wow, you are extremely fortunate! Almost every Dec. birthday I've encountered has had a history of not-so-great birthdays, as you can tell from the Dec. birthdays who responded here. It's really hard to be overlooked on your birthday. I mean, it's the day to celebrate your life, and when pretty much everyone can't make time for you or forgot to send you a card, it hurt all the more, like your life just wasn't worth saving a couple bucks for. 

    For any mom due in Dec., I'm not digging at you. You either wanted a Dec. baby or didn't have a choice in the matter. I'm referring to the women on the board who have Dec. birthdays and barely even get a Happy Birthday from anyone. 

    It sounds to me like the people in your life suck considering they overlook and don't make time for your birthday. I don't think you can blame the calendar for that. 

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    While not a December birthday, mine is Jan 1 so quite close.  I just had to weigh in and say not everyone hates having a bday so close to Christmas.  I don't mind it at all but then again, I don't need everyone and their dog to wish me a happy birthday in order to feel validated:)

     I didn't know I implied this. Confused The thing is, most December birthdays don't even get ONE happy birthday on their day. Like I said before, it's really hard to feel like you're remembered when no one says it to you. It's hard to feel special when no one even spared 99cents on a birthday card for you. Even just a few strangers on the internet remembering your birthday can make it feel much, much better even if your were forgotten by everyone else.

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    Mine is the 13th and baby's is sometime this week (induced or not!)  I've always had a great birthday and now it's about to be even better!  Smile

    Wow, you are extremely fortunate! Almost every Dec. birthday I've encountered has had a history of not-so-great birthdays, as you can tell from the Dec. birthdays who responded here. It's really hard to be overlooked on your birthday. I mean, it's the day to celebrate your life, and when pretty much everyone can't make time for you or forgot to send you a card, it hurt all the more, like your life just wasn't worth saving a couple bucks for. 

    For any mom due in Dec., I'm not digging at you. You either wanted a Dec. baby or didn't have a choice in the matter. I'm referring to the women on the board who have Dec. birthdays and barely even get a Happy Birthday from anyone. 

    It sounds to me like the people in your life suck considering they overlook and don't make time for your birthday. I don't think you can blame the calendar for that. 

    It could be. But take a look at the other Dec. birthdays (of women, not babies) here who piped up and said they didn't get anything on their birthday either or haven't in the past. Do we all know the same sucky people or what?

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  • One thing you guys might want to know in case you already don't: Tiffany and I are twins.

    So, 2 weeks to the day before Christmas it's a double-whammy birthday for our family- and we've always been screwed. We've gotten the gift from a cousin that arrived exactly in between those 2 days so we were told to wait until Christmas, to open it and see "Happy Birthday!" and a $5 bill. We've gotten stiffed on gifts because of there being 2 of us and it being so close to Christmas- is a cheap art set apeice a good gift? How about a sketch book on our birthday and the colored pencils for Christmas? Our mom has taken a cruise during our birthday, our 'Sweet 16' was a joke- and not sweet. We both cried because the day itself was barely acknowledged. Our grandmother swore to GOD that our birthday was the day after, and when Tiff and I looked back through old pictures, she had thought that for years. Ouch, right? Yet, our sister, who's a January baby, always got good gifts, decorations (real decorations; not Christmas!)- sometimes even parties with friends invited. Sad.

    Tiff's not being mean. She just wants to be sure that December birthdays get recognized because 9 times out of 10, the story's the same: Shitty gifts (if that) and maybe a 'Happy Birthday' late in the day once word gets out that it's your birthday and people feel bad for forgetting.

    For all of you delivering in December, just be sure to pay attention to this. It is NOT fun for a December child to feel overlooked every year and then as adults not be able to celebrate still because of Christams looming over their head. Yes; we know it's not our fault or anyone else's that everyone has plans throughout the month- but acknowledgement would be fantastic.

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    It sounds to me like the people in your life suck considering they overlook and don't make time for your birthday. I don't think you can blame the calendar for that. 

    It could be. But take a look at the other Dec. birthdays (of women, not babies) here who piped up and said they didn't get anything on their birthday either or haven't in the past. Do we all know the same sucky people or what?

    Well, you certainly don't know me. I'm just saying that if your friends can't be bothered to acknowledge your birthday then they're sucky friends. 

    My friend's birthday is today and I called her in Poland to wish her a happy birthday and sent her card 2 weeks ago. I have family with birthdays on 12/4, 12/8, 12/20 12/21 and 12/23. I've sent cards to the first 2, have cards made out for the last 3, and called the first one on his birthday. Plus I'm 37 weeks pregnant, have a 4 year old, am planning for Christmas and a scheduled c/s, managed to ship out Hanukkah gifts on time to my nephews and call my Jewish friends for Hanukkah.

    I don't treat December birthdays any different because there are holidays this month. If your friends and family treat your birthday differently than everyone else's it's not the calendar's fault. I'm just saying you should place the blame where it belongs.

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  • For me, now it isn't  bad to have a december birthday but as a kid, yeah it sucked.  My mom would ask for a wish list for my birthday, but I got a lot of " We can't afford that right now because of Christmas" comments.  I was really jealous of my sister who had bigger birthdays and Christmases because she had a June birthday. 

    My advice to Dec moms ( hey I am a Nov mom myself) is to make their birthday and Christmas two special days.  Sure they will be close together  but as long as they are two special days ( and really try to avoid the combination gifts), you shouldn't have a problem.

  • My mom and sister's birthdays are the week before Christmas. Mine's in July. I always felt bad for my little sister, because she'd have two or three people show up to her birthday parties and I know she resented it for a while. It's a hard thing to deal with when you're little especially. We just started doing the half birthday thing and celebrating in June. I think she really liked that a lot more.

     Happy birthday December ladies!

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  • image Fergie+1:

    One thing you guys might want to know in case you already don't: Tiffany and I are twins.

    So, 2 weeks to the day before Christmas it's a double-whammy birthday for our family- and we've always been screwed. We've gotten the gift from a cousin that arrived exactly in between those 2 days so we were told to wait until Christmas, to open it and see "Happy Birthday!" and a $5 bill. We've gotten stiffed on gifts because of there being 2 of us and it being so close to Christmas- is a cheap art set apeice a good gift? How about a sketch book on our birthday and the colored pencils for Christmas? Our mom has taken a cruise during our birthday, our 'Sweet 16' was a joke- and not sweet. We both cried because the day itself was barely acknowledged. Our grandmother swore to GOD that our birthday was the day after, and when Tiff and I looked back through old pictures, she had thought that for years. Ouch, right? Yet, our sister, who's a January baby, always got good gifts, decorations (real decorations; not Christmas!)- sometimes even parties with friends invited. Sad.

    Tiff's not being mean. She just wants to be sure that December birthdays get recognized because 9 times out of 10, the story's the same: Shitty gifts (if that) and maybe a 'Happy Birthday' late in the day once word gets out that it's your birthday and people feel bad for forgetting.

    For all of you delivering in December, just be sure to pay attention to this. It is NOT fun for a December child to feel overlooked every year and then as adults not be able to celebrate still because of Christams looming over their head. Yes; we know it's not our fault or anyone else's that everyone has plans throughout the month- but acknowledgement would be fantastic.

    This further solidifies my point. Those people who gave shiitty gifts knew your birthdays were coming and should have set aside money for that, just as they would for anyone else's birthday.

    I'm not arguing about whether you had crappy birthdays; I'm arguing that you should place blame on the people who made those birthdays crappy. 

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  • I'm sure no-one meant this as a dig to us Dec moms. But no one on here knows when my birthday is and wishes me happy bday! Who cares! My parents, DH, and my 3 friends are about all I get a happy bday from! My co workers forget, and I really don't care! And my bday is in august. Pretty much ALL winter bdays in upstate NY suck because it's cold and snowing. Just MHO! :)
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    One thing you guys might want to know in case you already don't: Tiffany and I are twins.

    So, 2 weeks to the day before Christmas it's a double-whammy birthday for our family- and we've always been screwed. We've gotten the gift from a cousin that arrived exactly in between those 2 days so we were told to wait until Christmas, to open it and see "Happy Birthday!" and a $5 bill. We've gotten stiffed on gifts because of there being 2 of us and it being so close to Christmas- is a cheap art set apeice a good gift? How about a sketch book on our birthday and the colored pencils for Christmas? Our mom has taken a cruise during our birthday, our 'Sweet 16' was a joke- and not sweet. We both cried because the day itself was barely acknowledged. Our grandmother swore to GOD that our birthday was the day after, and when Tiff and I looked back through old pictures, she had thought that for years. Ouch, right? Yet, our sister, who's a January baby, always got good gifts, decorations (real decorations; not Christmas!)- sometimes even parties with friends invited. Sad.

    Tiff's not being mean. She just wants to be sure that December birthdays get recognized because 9 times out of 10, the story's the same: Shitty gifts (if that) and maybe a 'Happy Birthday' late in the day once word gets out that it's your birthday and people feel bad for forgetting.

    For all of you delivering in December, just be sure to pay attention to this. It is NOT fun for a December child to feel overlooked every year and then as adults not be able to celebrate still because of Christams looming over their head. Yes; we know it's not our fault or anyone else's that everyone has plans throughout the month- but acknowledgement would be fantastic.

    This further solidifies my point. Those people who gave shiitty gifts knew your birthdays were coming and should have set aside money for that, just as they would for anyone else's birthday.

    I'm not arguing about whether you had crappy birthdays; I'm arguing that you should place blame on the people who made those birthdays crappy. 

    Okay- so we should call our parents and grandparents and tell them "Thanks for giving us shitty-a$$ brithdays! You gave us a complex!"?

    Her point is to ensure that this round of December babies DON'T get stiffed from family not planning properly.

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  • My b-day is Dec 28th, and, FWIW, I LOVE it!  The week of xmas, my bday and NYE is the best week of the year.  My mother, father and grandmother were all also born in December, so maybe they knew to always make my bday special.

    I am so,so excited to be having a December baby, too.  It such a lovely time of year and not everyone with a holiday bday gets shafted.

     

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