Before my fourteen month was born, I loved my in-laws. They were fun to be around, and we did lots of things together as a family. But once my son was born, I slowly started getting annoyed by them.
First, they would come out here all the time. They never thought to call; they would just stop by because "they were having a bad day." My MIL and SIL would come out together, and sit and whine about my FIL and MY HUSBAND! I couldn't stand it! Maybe it's because I had more to worry about, like a newborn!
And, they talked to my son like a baby. Influxes in your voice, NEEDED, but talking to him in gibberish, NO THANK YOU! (As in, that's so wude. Look at wu, wittle guy, etc.) I can't stand that. My child is a person, not an alien. Maybe it's because I had speech problems when I was little.
I get criticized for feeding my son organic food and for breastfeeding for so long (still nursing) and for wanting him to sleep on an organic mattress (research shows mattresses may be the cause of SIDS).
My DH has asked them to call before coming because quite frankly, sometimes we're not in the mood for visitors. And because they would come at nap time and wake both of us up by knocking and ringing the door bell. They didn't get that, so finally I just sent a nice e-mail asking my MIL to relay the message to call. We have a lot going on, and you show up when we're leaving and don't get the hint.
We go out to eat with them, and my FIL walks him around to people saying "Isn't he the cutest?" and he lets him play with decorations in the restaurant. HELLO? He's at the age where I'm trying to teach manners. That's just what we need, him banging lights at restaurants!
Everytime they are over here, they want to hold him. He's very active, and he doesn't like to be held, but they don't get it when he whines. And over and over they say, "Give me a kiss." Seriously, I hear it hundreds of times at each visit. It's like they have nothing else to say.
And recently, my little doing of asking if they could call turned into we don't let them see our son. Not true, just call. And don't be mad if we don't want visitors or if we have plans.
Ugh, I know it probably seems trivial. But I'm pregnant with my second now, and I can't do this with another baby or Mama will go crazy!