So how does anyone get their LOs to stay in time out? DS1 was good at staying in his chair at first, but once he stopped being scared of it (its a child's sized rocking chair that was mine when I was little) he's always getting down and just running up to me and laughing. I've told him no and put him back in the chair but he just slides right out again. It's really getting frustrating! We started putting him in his crib if he climbs out of the chair, but I don't know if that is even telling him anything... plus its a PITA to carry a flailing child up the stairs. What do you ladies do? Any advice is appreciated.
I put him in his room and shut the door. It worked at first, but now he just goes to his dresser and takes everything out and throws it on the floor. Little punk. I think I'm going to try to gate off a tiny part of the hall and see if that will work. A friend of a friend says she puts her son inside a tall laundry basket!?!? I have no idea how she gets him to stay in there, DS would have it tipped over and be rolling it around the house in no time! I have also heard of putting them in a pack and play or a play yard so it's different from their crib. Especially since you don't want them to see their cribs as a negative.
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The one time I've done it, I put him in his high chair, because that was the one place I could think of to strap him in. I've heard of people that say they sit LO on the couch, and that would last about a milisecond in our house. I'll be interested to see what other people do.
At this age timeouts are pointless. The kids don't necessarily understand why they're in the corner. They may make the association that if they do "x" then they go to the corner but that doesn't mean they fully understand the meaning behind it.
At this age timeouts are pointless. The kids don't necessarily understand why they're in the corner. They may make the association that if they do "x" then they go to the corner but that doesn't mean they fully understand the meaning behind it.
I tend to agree with this. We try to either ignore/redirect, or use natural consequences, i.e. if you throw your toy at me, you lose it for a while.
I haven't tried time out on DS yet, but I've heard that sometimes you have to sit with them and physically hold them in time out until they understand that they can't move. I think it's really hard at this age. Once in a great while I do time out with the 20 month old I sit, and she's just now understanding not to move away.
At this age timeouts are pointless. The kids don't necessarily understand why they're in the corner. They may make the association that if they do "x" then they go to the corner but that doesn't mean they fully understand the meaning behind it.
I tend to agree with this. We try to either ignore/redirect, or use natural consequences, i.e. if you throw your toy at me, you lose it for a while.
I agree. We say "no" and redirect. If he tosses something on the floor, it is taken away for a while
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Our TO spot is just a spot on the floor in front of the living room closet door. I kind of do the Super Nanny thing and just put them back in place without saying anything.
Alex doesn't really get TO yet but Will does and he actually caught on pretty quickly to the idea that if he gets up, TO will just last longer, so he stays put. He tends to misbehave when he gets overly hyper and spirals out of control (and starts hitting, or throwing something hard at one of us, etc.), so TO works really well with him; it kind of interrupts the spiral and helps him calm down and listen.
I tend to agree with this. We try to either ignore/redirect, or use natural consequences, i.e. if you throw your toy at me, you lose it for a while.
Yeah, we do a lot of natural consequences as well. That works well for some things. TO helps when what's needed is to calm down. I do think it really depends on the kid though, especially at this age; with two the same age, we find they respond so differently to the same things.
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The one time I've done it, I put him in his high chair, because that was the one place I could think of to strap him in. I've heard of people that say they sit LO on the couch, and that would last about a milisecond in our house. I'll be interested to see what other people do.
I put him in the crib or pack and play.
I tend to agree with this. We try to either ignore/redirect, or use natural consequences, i.e. if you throw your toy at me, you lose it for a while.
I agree. We say "no" and redirect. If he tosses something on the floor, it is taken away for a while
Our TO spot is just a spot on the floor in front of the living room closet door. I kind of do the Super Nanny thing and just put them back in place without saying anything.
Alex doesn't really get TO yet but Will does and he actually caught on pretty quickly to the idea that if he gets up, TO will just last longer, so he stays put. He tends to misbehave when he gets overly hyper and spirals out of control (and starts hitting, or throwing something hard at one of us, etc.), so TO works really well with him; it kind of interrupts the spiral and helps him calm down and listen.
Yeah, we do a lot of natural consequences as well. That works well for some things. TO helps when what's needed is to calm down. I do think it really depends on the kid though, especially at this age; with two the same age, we find they respond so differently to the same things.