3rd Trimester

Are you going to "look" while delivering?

I have been thinking about this lately and just read a birth story that reminded me.

With DS#1, I opted not to look with a mirror down there for fear that I would stop pushing all together. After his birth, I kinda felt like I missed out. Something that I only had that one time to see! So this time, I think that I may have to look. What are you doing??

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Re: Are you going to "look" while delivering?

  • I am using a mirror. My SIL did in Dec with her first baby and she said seeing the progress she was making made her that much more motivated. I'm also an EMT so I find birth and everything interesting. I think it will give me determination to see my son born. :) If I don't like it I will just tell them to take it away
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  • Yeah i plan on looking!! This will be my first! But i have 3 vaginal deliveries and 2 c sections so i really not afraid of what it is going to look like i pretty sure i can handle it!! 
  • I'm going to start with the mirror. I think seeing what's happening when I push may help me to keep pushing if I'm getting close where as I may have given up for a second if I didn't know. If it bothers me I can ask them at any time to take it away.

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  • Nope no desire.  I'm afraid it'll break my concentration as well.
  • I did with my first because I was completely numb from my epidural and watching the progress helped me figure out pushing. It only took one or two pushes with the mirror to figure it out though. I never did with my son. He came out on the first push.
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  • I have zero desire to see. If DH wants to then he can look. That can be his special thing since I've had everything else with pregnancy. 
  • I really feel that this will just break my concentration, so I will not be asking for the mirror. 
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  • With my first they offered me the mirror and I said no.  Then I changed my mind and looked but it freaked me out and I told them to put the mirror away.  Wasn't my kind of thing but you should probably try it at least.
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  • The nurses put a mirror in front of me without asking first.  I got freaked out by it and made them take it away after about 3 seconds. 
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  • I'm not planning on it -- in fact, I'm putting in my birth plan that I do NOT want to be offered a mirror.  I'm afraid I'll lose my focus.  I was undecided until we watched some super-terrifying birth videos in Bradley class, and I'm still trying to convince myself that babies' heads aren't REALLY that big. :p
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  • I would like them to offer a mirror so I can decide at the time. I am 75% sure I'd like to watch.
  • As of now - NOT interested in looking!

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  • no way.  i like that i can't see what's going on.
  • I looked once and it was very, brutally ugly, so I didn't look again. DH looked once and said my b-hole was just as big as my V and he didn't look again....I think he was traumatized for a bit after that. Indifferent

     

    ETA: my hospital has mirrors on the ceiling of all birthing suites, so it's up to you whether or not to look

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    I looked once and it was very, brutally ugly, so I didn't look again. DH looked once and said my b-hole was just as big as my V and he didn't look again....I think he was traumatized for a bit after that. Indifferent

     

    ETA: my hospital has mirrors on the ceiling of all birthing suites, so it's up to you whether or not to look

    That's exactly what scared me.  The vag itself was no big deal, in fact it was kind of cool to see her crowning. 

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  • i just peeked over and saw your post. I had a mirror when i had my son (first baby) i ended up pushing for over 2 1/2 hours and having the mirror really helped because i saw with each push his head came futher out. if i didnt have a mirror i probably would have given up and asked for a c-section
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  • I get queasy easily so I think it would backfire. DH does not want to look and I would rather him not, lest risk him feeling "weird" about it later.

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  • I have no desire to see the birth happen.  My DH told me that he will hold my hand and focus on me.  So I think it will be a nice experience for us to be looking at each other while our baby boy is being born.

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  • I wasn't given the option with my first, and when they asked with my second if I wanted to look and see him come out, I said YES!  It was really cool to see more of his head crown with each contraction and push... and then to actually watch him come out - priceless.  It really was so awesome.  If they let me look again this time, I will.  It was very motivating seeing successful pushes and since I was insanely numb from my epidural, it helped me to know where to push when I could see I was doing it right.
  • I jokingly told my FI the other night that mirrors and pictures are off limits to me because I've only seen my nether regions 5-6 times in my life and I'd rather not remember them like THAT.   I really don't know if I'll use it....  maybe when the time comes it will seem like a good idea.  Pictures I'm not budging on.
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  • If it's a vag delivery, maybe! It will depend on my mood.

    C-section- hell no. 

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    I looked once and it was very, brutally ugly, so I didn't look again. DH looked once and said my b-hole was just as big as my V and he didn't look again....I think he was traumatized for a bit after that. Indifferent

     

    ETA: my hospital has mirrors on the ceiling of all birthing suites, so it's up to you whether or not to look

    That's exactly what scared me.  The vag itself was no big deal, in fact it was kind of cool to see her crowning. 

     

    Okay.  Explain.  Was it opening up or protruding like crazy.  I never thought about it....now I'm nervous!

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    The nurses put a mirror in front of me without asking first.  I got freaked out by it and made them take it away after about 3 seconds. 

    Ditto! 

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  • image Winter*Mommy:
    I wasn't given the option with my first, and when they asked with my second if I wanted to look and see him come out, I said YES!  It was really cool to see more of his head crown with each contraction and push... and then to actually watch him come out - priceless.  It really was so awesome.  If they let me look again this time, I will.  It was very motivating seeing successful pushes and since I was insanely numb from my epidural, it helped me to know where to push when I could see I was doing it right.

    This was exactly what happened for me too.  I didn't even know that a mirror was really an option, but it helped so much to see what a correct push looked like and the progress I was making.

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  • I didn't want to look with #1, but I definitely think I will this time.  I wanted to give up pushing the first time so I think it would help to see what was going on down there in order to keep me motivated.
  • Nope. I didn't look with DD either. Honestly, I had my eyes closed 95% of the time for some reason.
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  • I didn't, and I wish I had. Looking back now, It's the one thing I regret!
  • I looked when I delivered, and it was amazing.  I would definitely say go for it!  It was so motivating to see her move down with each push, and as a result, I only had to push 3 times and she was out!  Now, 6 months later, I still remember it vividly.  I'm not grossed out by blood, but I will say that if you watch, be prepared for the gush of amniotic fluid/blood that comes out after the baby is delivered.  It was surprising how much fluid is in there, especially since my water had broken 7 hours earlier. 
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    I looked when I delivered, and it was amazing.  I would definitely say go for it!  It was so motivating to see her move down with each push, and as a result, I only had to push 3 times and she was out!  Now, 6 months later, I still remember it vividly.  I'm not grossed out by blood, but I will say that if you watch, be prepared for the gush of amniotic fluid/blood that comes out after the baby is delivered.  It was surprising how much fluid is in there, especially since my water had broken 7 hours earlier. 
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