I'm not sold on the idea honestly.
That aside, she just asked DH today (out of the blue) while they were at work if she could come to the ultrasound on Wednesday. I'd personally like this to be just me and DH just like at the eleven week ultrasound because I feel it's something for us as first-time parents to experience on our own without someone commenting over our shoulders about whatever comes to mind. (she doesn't censor her thoughts much and it's caused issues in the past.) I'm just a very private person when it comes to things like this and I'm not comfortable with her being there. On top of it all, how do I tell her I'm not comfortable with other people being there? She's a major guilt-tripper and knows how to push your buttons and make you feel like crap about a situation when you shouldn't have to feel bad. I just want this to be for DH and I. Is that so bad?